[Magdalen] your ongoing prayers, please

[Molly Wolf]

In Ontario. You are entitled to half of the common assets, including half of the value of the matrimonial home, half his pension, and half of anything he's salted away since your marriage.  He is entitled to half of your pension, etc.  Each of you lists what you've got, and then it's horse trading:  you get to keep the house, he gets to keep (some of) his pension, etc., until the property held in common (which means pretty much everything acquired since your marriage) ends up 50-50.  So don't fret.  He may propose an unequal split, but you don't have to accept it. 

Have you got a separation agreement, or is this what you're negotiating?

Molly

The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way. -- Mark Twain

> On Oct 8, 2014, at 3:14 PM, Marion Thompson <marionwhitevale at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> Time will tell!  We have maintained a very civil facade, never ever mentioning the legal stuff, but on Nov. 4 we both have to appear in court at some information session where we are told how everything works.  I guess the camel will truly be in the tent after that.
> 
> Marion, a pilgrim
>> On 10/8/2014 12:16 PM, Cantor03--- via Magdalen wrote:
>> 
>> In a message dated 10/8/2014 12:02:03 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
>> mcepeda514 at gmail.com writes:
>> 
>> divorce  when it is easy. My prayers......>>>
>>  Is it ever easy?
>>  I thought mine would be easy since it was simply deciding on
>> the details of a 50-50 split.  We were on fairly amicable  speaking
>> terms, and I thought we were out of the woods.
>>  Then my ex was referred by a mutual "friend" (actually the wife of
>> one of my fellow dermatology residents) to a person I later found
>> out defined the word,"misandry".  This "advisor" radicalized my
>> ex to the point that conversation was impossible, and it was through
>> lawyers (at $150 a crack) that even the simplest communication
>> occurred.
>>  I do hope things are better for you.
>>    David Strang - 30 years divorced and counting.
>