[Magdalen] Near the end of my rope

[Judy Fleener]

Oh dearest Jim, I wish there were some concrete way Bill and I could help.
Do know that you are in our prayers.

On Mon, Mar 9, 2015 at 11:28 AM, H Angus <hangus at ctcn.net> wrote:

> Jim,
>
> It is an honor to walk through this with you and Marcie; like others here,
> I feel blessed that you have shared all this with us. It must be terribly
> hard to see a beloved person change before your eyes. I pray for peace for
> Marcie and for you. I too am glad you are getting away for a little while.
> You both are in my thoughts and prayers.
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Grace Cangialosi" <gracecan at gmail.com>
> To: magdalen at herberthouse.org
> Sent: Monday, March 9, 2015 9:25:42 AM
> Subject: Re: [Magdalen] Near the end of my rope
>
> Unfortunately, the situation here is much the same with regard to
> caregivers. It's a terribly difficult job with long hours and lousy pay.
> Would your upcoming trip be a good to transition to the hospice facility,
> since she'll be going there for respite care anyway?
>
> > On Mar 9, 2015, at 7:43 AM, Allan Carr <allanc25 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > As of tonight (indeed.com), there are 352 caregiver jobs open here in
> > Thousand Oaks, CA,  a town of about 130,000. The Hispanic or Latino
> > population is only 17% and the pay is low. So there is some incentive to
> > leave a highly stressful situation for one less stressful, or paying
> > slightly more, or having better (sometimes longer) hours, or avoiding
> > stressful commutes, or attending community college for a better job, or
> > whatever.
> > At the moment, I think our caregiver is happy, but a good bit of my
> stress
> > in the last couple of years has been worrying about the length of stay of
> > our caregivers for reasons cited above, and we raily get any notice.
> >
> >
> >> On Sunday, March 8, 2015, Lynn Ronkainen <houstonklr at gmail.com> wrote:
> >>
> >> Thoughts and prayers here Jim. It is possible that your current health
> >> care group is not hiring capable aids. Marcy's behavior though very
> >> difficult and especially hard on you is to be expected of anyone who
> still
> >> has their mental faculties in a situation like this as difficult as that
> >> is. Any hospice aid should be prepared for this and have skills to keep
> >> themselves from taking it personally.
> >> I hope your time away is one of respite and renewal of energy.
> >> Peace Lynn
> >>
> >> Sent from my iPhone
> >>
> >> On Mar 8, 2015, at 8:09 PM, James Handsfield <jhandsfield at att.net
> >> <javascript:;>> wrote:
> >>
> >> Sorry to burden you all with this.  Yesterday evening Marcy bullied the
> >> evening aide, and today she quit.  I don't blame her (the aide that
> is), so
> >> tonight I'm caring for Marcy on my own.  That is doable - I've done it
> >> before.  But it feels like she's forgotten that she cares for me and is
> >> happy to have aides leave.  I'm about to change agencies, and maybe that
> >> will make a difference.
> >>
> >> I'm off to Hawaii for 12 days in a week.  Marcy will be at Hospice
> Atlanta
> >> Center during that time.  But right now I need stamina and strength.
> I'm
> >> crying as I write this.
> >>
> >> -------------------------------------
> >> Education is its own reward, both for the individual and for society.
> >>
> >> Jim Handsfield
> >> jhandsfield at att.net <javascript:;>
> >
> > --
> > Allan Carr
>
>


-- 
Judy Fleener, ObJN
Western Michigan