[Magdalen] Camille's Dementia

[Allan Carr]

As I stated, the daughter of a woman in the group called the center to
complain that my wife had struck her mother with her fist. This is the
story that this daughter, who's probably in her fifties, believes.

Secondly, as I think I stated, this is not the first time people have
complained. It's a pattern. What is my Christian duty, not just to Camille,
but to these others in her class? Since I'm not a lawyer, what is
actionable under the law, particularly in California?

I think your notion that I'm inventing things is a putdown. Particularly at
the age of 84 after almost dying of an aneurism a couple of years ago,
fainting in a hot parking lot several months ago, and having a stroke a
month ago, I'm very risk averse, especially of anything raising my blood
pressure, as a suit would certainly do.

I've asked Camille's son and her eldest daughter to look into all this
further. I'll see what they come up with.



On Monday, November 2, 2015, James Oppenheimer-Crawford <
oppenheimerjw at gmail.com> wrote:

> If the people running the show do not have a problem, it seems unnecessary
> to try to invent one.
>
> James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
> *“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
> except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy
>
> On Mon, Nov 2, 2015 at 5:25 PM, Allan Carr <allanc25 at gmail.com
> <javascript:;>> wrote:
>
> > Camille attends a day care center where she's much appreciated by the
> staff
> > because she's lively, fun, and adds a lot to the group. However, she's
> also
> > playfully physical and can, playfully, show a fist or even, playfully,
> slap
> > someone on the head or rear.
> >
> > Some people are objecting to this, which I understand because I'm
> > uncomfortable when Camille directs it to me. Things came to a head when
> one
> > participant reported to her daughter that Camille punched her and the
> > daughter complained to the center. The class supervisor emphatically told
> > me, when I inquired, that this punch was not meant in earnest, but I'm
> > bothered that it happened.
> >
> > After a discussion with the group leader, i was surprised that Camille
> was
> > still welcome. She went today, but now I'm wondering about personal
> > liability. I could, i suppose, limit the day care class to just mornings
> > and send our caregiver to sort of guard her, but I'm not sure that would
> be
> > effective. I also would miss having my breakfast and lunch prepared for
> me
> > at home.
> >
> > But at home, she just sits in her easy chair with our toy poodle Joey in
> > her lap watching TV. I'm sure the center and all her interaction is
> really
> > good for her but i think it may be time to end her participation.
> >
> > She does go to a gym three days a week for an elders gym class which she
> > enjoys. I probably ought to look for other classes like that for her with
> > limited interaction with others.
> >
> > Too bad, but there it is.
> >
> > --
> > Allan Carr
> >
>


-- 
Allan Carr