[Magdalen] Speaking of money

[Marion Thompson]

Well, Jim now lives in another town and I am here.  In a totally 
out-of-balance financial situation, Jim's true financial situation 
essentially was a closed book.  But then, we were each operating by 
different rules and perceptions of the fundamental basis of our 
marriage.  We never found a way, especially because of that fundamental 
misunderstanding and a lot to do with our two personalities and 
upbringings and coping mechanisms.
Sorry, I'm no help.    Money, probably more than sex, casts a very long 
shadow over a relationship.

Marion, a pilgrim

On 9/2/2015 7:22 AM, Scott Knitter wrote:
> How does one speak with one's significant other about the state of household finances? This is an ongoing problem here in our relationship. I'm the sole earner, so I manage the accounts and bills, and I'm accused by my dear partner of keeping him in the dark about how much I earn, how much we can afford to spend, etc.
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> Believe me, I'd like to keep him informed, but I haven't found a way that works, apparently. I've tried simply sharing bank statements with him and I've tried developing a summary spreadsheet. He doesn't spend time perusing these...perhaps it's a Myers-Briggs difference and there needs to be a more NF way of communicating our financial picture. But even without cold, hard numbers on paper, our conversations about money tend to end up with his feeling guilty or angry and my feeling annoyed.
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> Just wondering if others have had similar struggles and found ways to talk about money.
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> Sent from my iPad.
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