[Magdalen] Loaned out

[Scott Knitter]

Good advice...thanks. And thanks to all in this thread. My former
colleague knows me as someone who would do anything to solve a problem
on the job, and I'm kind of a go-to person for advice on a computer or
software problem (my secret tool: Google -- but I honestly try to
share that: "You know, if you Google the exact wording of the error
message, in quotation marks, you'll find a forum where someone has
given the answer you need.") So my former colleague knows I'd try to
help him with his money problem. I did need to draw the line at $1,000
and could see that he was going to turn to me at every step of his
worsening money problem. He needs local help and has a lot of friends,
so I've done what I can and others can do what they can. If he asks
again? A small grant, as you suggest, and anything beyond that is
simply impossible.

For some reason this opened a whole web of issues for me yesterday.

On Wed, Sep 9, 2015 at 10:16 PM, James Oppenheimer-Crawford
<oppenheimerjw at gmail.com> wrote:
> If one feels they must give this individual anything, I'd say give them
> $50, tell them it's a gift, "and it's all I can afford. Period." And walk
> away. In fact, that will be a singularly positive act toward him.  Learning
> to deal with life independently is not always easy for all of us. Some
> simply believe that they cannot do it alone, without using some game to
> give them some advantage.  Giving a manipulator finds simply keeps him
> dependent on others.
>
> James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
> *“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
> except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy
>
> On Wed, Sep 9, 2015 at 11:25 AM, ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> I'd tell the former colleague that the $500 is a gift and you're done.
>> -M
>>



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Scott R. Knitter
Edgewater, Chicago, Illinois USA