[Magdalen] Happy 2016

[Scott Knitter]

Got up, showered, fed the cats and went downtown. Oddly, I find solitude in the basement food court at Macy's department store. Cup o'Starbucks and my iPad. Prayed Matins in the quiet train on the way down. I've only just texted him to let him know where I am. 

I wouldn't stand in the way if you gave him a smack, Sally! I like the balloon idea, too.

He's had painful days in depression; for me, yesterday was a painful day in anxiety. He should understand.

Sent from my iPad

> On Jan 1, 2016, at 8:19 AM, Sally Davies <sally.davies at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> Shielding you from anxiety?!
> 
> Just as well I'm a few thousand miles away Scott, or I might just give him
> a smack for pulling that stunt. Or what about putting a balloon full of
> cold water on a door, letting it fall on him as he comes through it, and
> then suggesting he might thank you for shielding him from anxiety, by not
> telling him about it?
> 
> Bah. I hope that now that's over, you're getting some needed down time to
> recover.
> 
> Sally D
> 
>> On Friday, January 1, 2016, Scott Knitter <scottknitter at gmail.com> wrote:
>> 
>> Ginga, well done with the honest opt-out! I've reminded my dearest that I
>> need to know plans to host people and need a chance to prepare or opt out.
>> He feels he's shielding me from anxiety. I told him this made it a painful
>> day for me...actually much more anxiety. Yes, I stepped up and was
>> welcoming (nothing is the guest's fault, after all) but didn't know it was
>> an overnight stay. Another tidbit I needed shielding from, I guess.
>> 
>> The saying of No does need practice but it also needs to be an option in
>> the first place.
>> 
>> Sent from my iPad
>> 
>>>> On Dec 31, 2015, at 7:46 PM, Ginga Wilder <gingawilder at gmail.com
>>> <javascript:;>> wrote:
>>> 
>>> John and I don't party much any longer, by our choice.  I gave up many of
>>> the 'shoulds' in my life years ago...it is much better that way.  And, I
>> am
>>> a nicer person.  Scott, take the risk to express your wishes and follow
>>> them through.  Love you!
>>