[Magdalen] Another Bereavement

[Jay Weigel]

So sorry, Christopher. I know how it is not to have your parents even while
they are alive. I didn't either, due to dementia issues with my dad, and
with my mother, because she could no longer speak. It's hard. Virtual hugs
coming your way. Prayers too.

On Tue, Mar 15, 2016 at 10:33 PM, Christopher Hart <cervus51 at gmail.com>
wrote:

> Dear Friends in the Pub,
>
> I want to let you all know that my father, Oliver James Hart (Jr.), passed
> away early this morning. He was a week shy of his 93rd birthday, but had
> not been in good health for some time. His legs were weak and his hearing
> was very poor, but you can manage those issues. More recently, however, he
> had developed dementia. He and his second wife (a.k.a. stepmother although
> I hold no affection for the woman) lived in Sarasota, Florida and had moved
> to a retirement home a few years ago which fortunately had built in nursing
> facilities when the time came for Dad to move into those. My brother has
> been in greater contact than I due largely to the fact that he travels to
> Florida from time to time and has been able to visit. Also, being an
> attorney, he is more acquainted with the various things that need to be
> done in the current situation. He is going down there tomorrow. I offered
> to go down also, which he would have welcomed, but stepmother doesn't want
> me to come so it appears that I will stay in Pennsylvania. A memorial
> service will, I'm told, take place in the summer in Maine where the family
> summer home is located and I trust that I will not be shut out from that.
>
> ​As I've said a few times today already, I feel as though I have not really
> had my father in my life for a while because his poor hearing made phone
> calls virtually ​impossible and after the dementia set in it was useless
> anyway, but there is still an awful finality when the long expected moment
> arrives.
>
> ​I did manage to get to a mass this evening​ which felt like the right
> thing. Your prayers are, of course, welcome.
> --
>
> Christopher Hart
>
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