[Magdalen] I found out who got the job....

[James Oppenheimer-Crawford]

It is a good idea to be scrupulous about avoiding any thoughts about how a
person mistreated you in the past.

That person just might have grown. People change.

And feelings you have toward this person are utterly invisible to that
person, and only have impact on you. Someone once described holding on to
anger at another as taking poison and expecting the other person to die.

I have a similar situation, and while I try to be more charitable, it is
hard to forgive the person who made my mother cry. But I do no favors for
me or my Mom (gone to glory a couple years ago) or that other individual by
not letting go of those feelings.

Now if I could just figure out how to do it.

James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
*“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy

On Fri, Nov 25, 2016 at 11:42 AM, sheila ketler via Magdalen <
magdalen at herberthouse.org> wrote:

> Hi everyoneI have been in contact with the president of our local branch
> RCCO - to  be put on the sub list for our local branch. He hasadvised who
> got the job instead of me. So when I began my organ career I worked for a
> United Church locally. This churchhad a lovely 3 manual pipe organ (by far
> the nicest one in town...) and the committee was thinking of two people for
> the joband could not decide which one to hire. I had an option of another
> church job at the time but unwisely as it turned outtook the United
> Church... They had hired another organist as well she dealt with the adult
> choir I dealt with a junior choir.. andI was allowed one Sunday per month
> on the pipe organ to play the service. Well she began to criticize me when
> I attendedadult choir practice (oh she would take me aside to do it but it
> was obvious she thought she was more capable and tryingto put me in my
> place..) Then she began to bad-mouth me to the minister and I was hauled on
> the carpet due to hermeddling... As a result they fired me with no notice
>  but I  told them they needed to pay me the full month's salary andvacation
> pay which they did. I never asked for references from them...So I have just
> found out that this person has been hired instead of me at the church where
> I auditioned. She is a Catholicorganist who has no working knowledge of
> Anglican liturgy Anglican hymnal or Anglican service music. I am
> beyondbelieving it... and I know what she is like.When she worked with me
> she just didn't show up for choir practice so she ended up booted also..Now
> before any of you say to me you are a good person be patient good things
> happen to good people I am beginningto think that there is no hope for me I
> am just doomed...
> What is wrong with people?? After 12 years of Anglican services I thought
> I had that job in the bag... !!
> Sheila
>