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[Don Boyd]

Ann, she died in November of 2017 as she was being loaded into the ambulance that would have taken her from hospital to hospice.   Thank you for asking.      Don

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> On Aug 10, 2020, at 9:45 AM, Ann Markle <ann.markle at aya.yale.edu> wrote:
> 
> Don,  when did Janice die?  My memory is just about shot, and I don't
> remember hearing about this.  I'm so sorry.  I worry about my little dog
> dying (she's my life partner and my best friend --  sad!),  can't imagine
> losing a spouse/best friend.  But thanks for the update.  I've  only
> unfriended a couple of people, not because they disagree with me (though
> they did), but because their comments were so rancorous (that doesn't look
> right, but I'm too lazy to check it) that  they gave me stomachaches.  And
> I agree that they're moral issues,  and I draw my (self-righteous)
> conclusions, but  that doesn't  usually preclude  ongoing  friendship, even
> online, based on areas of agreement or mutual interest,  if  we can  just
> leave the areas of disagreement alone.
> 
> I really am so happy to catch up with this online family.  I've known many
> of  you longer  than most of my other friends (except my bff, a 39  year
> long friendship, and some school friends).
> 
> Ann
> 
> The Rev. Ann Markle
> Buffalo, NY
> ann.markle at aya.yale.edu
> 
> 
>> On Mon, Aug 10, 2020 at 9:05 AM Don Boyd <thedonboyd at austin.rr.com> wrote:
>> 
>> NOTE:  Second paragraph is undeniably whiney.  Skip it if you need to (I
>> probably would.)
>> 
>> Our (Texas) Governor has sided with Trump in  prioritizing economic
>> concerns over public health concerns.  Nevertheless most people are staying
>> home as much as they can, wearing masks away from home, and maintaining
>> social distance whenever doing so is not too inconvenient.  (I confess to
>> resenting people whose blithe disregard for the welfare of anyone but
>> themselves allows them to ignore masks and distancing.)
>> 
>> COVID-19 precautions have me feeling somewhat isolated even though by
>> nature I’m pretty introverted. Since my wife Janice died the only person I
>> ever see up close and in person is my daughter Sarah who visits every day
>> for two or three hours including lunch.  She gets me to doctor
>> appointments,etc.  I have e-mail dialogues with a few longtime friends.  I
>> miss church, in-person visits with friends,  and most of all I miss
>> Janice.  She was my partner in life and my best friend.
>>> 
>>> I read a rant recently responding to a post suggesting that sometimes
>> people should just “agree to disagree.”  The writer insisted that agreeing
>> to disagree was only possible when the subject was trivial (as, e. g.,
>> whether ketchup should be an ingredient in a burger) but when the subject
>> was important (racism, economic inequality, etc.) these were moral issues
>> and disagreement on them precluded continuation of further communication
>> and even of friendship.  The writer announced an intent in future  to
>> Facebook-unfriend anyone who posted views that the writer considered to be
>> immoral.  I am congratulating myself for refraining from calling the writer
>> out for self-righteousness, although I of course agree that the issues
>> named are indeed about morality.  Acknowledging that the  writer has every
>> right to choosethe  co-conversationalists, and even has a right to be a
>> self-righteous jerk, but I did want to smack the writer upside the head.
>> (I think I just did what I accused the writer of doing.)
>>> 
>>> 😕😕      D
>>> 
>>> 
>>> 
>>> Sent from my iPad
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