[Magdalen] Dilemma

Sat Dec 4 02:25:58 UTC 2021

thanks , I did contact the local Mental health they turned me down. I found
another place for an appt . I really needed this break out of my town.
While waiting for apt.  Don ‘ t know what kind of decision I will make yet.
  Being under a roof is better in the winter here in the Canadian Praries
even if it’s mine.

On Tue, Nov 30, 2021 at 7:15 AM ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com> wrote:

> Clarissa, I don't know where you are (I mean geographically, not
> emotionally)
> but even the best of your old friends might not be able to give you the
> listening ear and the advice you need.
>
> There are professionals who are really good at this,
> people who went into their professions wanting to help,
> and who have the training to do the work as it should be done.
>
> I hope you can find someone to work with you as you go through your current
> dilemma.
> You deserve it. So do the people you love and who love you.
> -Margaret
>
>
> On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 5:59 PM Clarissa Canning <canplum at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> >       It is alright to not take my advise , good you got some opinions
> and
> > options.  I ‘d like to share my delimma , living with a big baby who does
> > not consult me about buying things.   I am having a hell of a time, but
> got
> > some people to talk to and my anxiety is high .I went totally silent live
> > upstairs most of the time. I not so cruel that I stoped helping cook and
> > changing ostomy in home er.  why do some guy know how to pick an item
> that
> > really stabs one in the heart ❤️. Clueless . I will never get an apology
> as
> > I have a big mouth too many times. I like to say No too many times .
> Thank
> > God I found an old friend    an am taking a break for a week .  Almost 45
> > years and my choices are not great . Please duck tape me to he wall and
> put
> > tape on the my mouth .  Send $$$ so i can go see my granddaughter in
> Japan
> > . ( just kidding ) It’s true will never go there .   Pray if you wish .
> it
> > will be a long winter.
> >
> > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 1:30 PM Marion Thompson <
> marionwhitevale at gmail.com
> > >
> > wrote:
> >
> > > Be strong and firm, Grace..  You have every right to say 'No'.  You are
> > not
> > > being selfish.  You are being sensible and responsible where he is not.
> > > These are not usual times and you should not be asked to jeopardize
> your
> > > health,   and, indeed,  your own Church work and the people you mix
> with
> > as
> > > we approach Christmas!
> > >
> > > Marion, a pilgrim.
> > >
> > > On Mon, 29 Nov 2021 at 11:23, Grace Cangialosi <gracecan at gmail.com>
> > wrote:
> > >
> > > > I know.
> > > >
> > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 7:13 AM ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com>
> > wrote:
> > > >
> > > > > Oh, and as a vaccinated person, you can catch Covid, show no
> > symptoms,
> > > > but
> > > > > still infect others.
> > > > > -M
> > > > >
> > > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 7:12 AM ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com>
> > > wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > > > Besides, tbose pelicans were still chicks (or whatever baby
> > pelicans
> > > > are
> > > > > > called).
> > > > > > -M
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 6:53 AM Grace Cangialosi <
> > gracecan at gmail.com
> > > >
> > > > > > wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > >> LOL! I collect pelicans, but no, I don’t plan to emulate their
> > > > > >> self-sacrifice!
> > > > > >>
> > > > > >> > On Nov 29, 2021, at 6:27 AM, ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com>
> > > > wrote:
> > > > > >> >
> > > > > >> > Setting limits with children should end when they become
> > adults.
> > > > > >> > Usually.
> > > > > >> > This one sounds like he just threw his rattle on the floor and
> > is
> > > > > >> watching
> > > > > >> > to see if you'll pick it up and return it to him.
> > > > > >> >
> > > > > >> > So a big NO on this. You have responsibilities to guard your
> own
> > > > > health
> > > > > >> and
> > > > > >> > the health of parishoners.
> > > > > >> > Unless you're intent on becoming the pelican who shreds its
> own
> > > body
> > > > > to
> > > > > >> > feed its young.
> > > > > >> > -M
> > > > > >> >
> > > > > >> >
> > > > > >> >> On Sun, Nov 28, 2021 at 9:14 PM Grace Cangialosi <
> > > > gracecan at gmail.com
> > > > > >
> > > > > >> wrote:
> > > > > >> >>
> > > > > >> >> Thank you for your input. I consulted my daughter about it,
> and
> > > she
> > > > > >> thinks
> > > > > >> >> I’m making too much of it. She said if I’m that concerned, I
> > > might
> > > > > not
> > > > > >> want
> > > > > >> >> to ervisit her in Florida. But she and the boys are fully
> > > > vaccinated,
> > > > > >> and
> > > > > >> >> if I go inside anywhere, I’ll wear a mask. Plus, I’m driving
> > > down,
> > > > > not
> > > > > >> >> flying.
> > > > > >> >>
> > > > > >> >> I’ll just have to bite the bullet and talk to my son about it
> > > > > tomorrow.
> > > > > >> >> It’s not as simple as “my house, my rules;” this may undo our
> > > very
> > > > > >> fragile
> > > > > >> >> new detente. His reasons are political and extend to all
> > > > vaccinations
> > > > > >> of
> > > > > >> >> any kind or any suggestion that he should wear a mask. He
> > > wouldn’t
> > > > > >> visit
> > > > > >> >> his dad in a nursing home because he had to wear a mask.
> > > > > >> >> But I am glad for your input—it basically supports my
> position.
> > > > > >> >>
> > > > > >> >>> On Nov 28, 2021, at 4:00 PM, Grace Cangialosi <
> > > gracecan at gmail.com
> > > > >
> > > > > >> >> wrote:
> > > > > >> >>>
> > > > > >> >>> I had a phone call from my son this morning asking if he
> > could
> > > > > bring
> > > > > >> >> the three boys here on a Saturday in December. He has a job
> and
> > > > can’t
> > > > > >> bring
> > > > > >> >> them. They are 16, 10, and 8. I don’t really have much for
> them
> > > to
> > > > do
> > > > > >> here,
> > > > > >> >> but I figured maybe we could go out for pizza and maybe go to
> > the
> > > > > >> community
> > > > > >> >> park if it’s not too cold, or to a movie.
> > > > > >> >>> But then I remembered that they aren’t vaccinated and won’t
> > be.
> > > > So I
> > > > > >> >> won’t want to take them out for lunch or to a movie. But I’m
> > also
> > > > not
> > > > > >> >> terribly comfortable with the idea of having them here in the
> > > house
> > > > > all
> > > > > >> >> day. I left a message with my son that we need to discuss it,
> > > but I
> > > > > >> haven’t
> > > > > >> >> heard back yet. He told me awhile ago that the whole family
> had
> > > > COVID
> > > > > >> back
> > > > > >> >> at the beginning, so they don’t need the vaccine, but I’ve
> > heard
> > > > that
> > > > > >> isn’t
> > > > > >> >> necessarily true. I know there’s going to be a confrontation
> > over
> > > > > >> this, and
> > > > > >> >> I’d like another opinion or two. Am I overreacting? At the
> very
> > > > > least,
> > > > > >> I
> > > > > >> >> will insist that they wear masks—he doesn’t believe in those,
> > > > either.
> > > > > >> >>
> > > > > >>
> > > > > >
> > > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > --
> > > > Grace Cangialosi
> > > > Ruckersville, VA
> > > >
> > > > * "Service is what prayer looks like when it gets up off its knees
> and
> > > > walks around in the world"*
> > > > *                                              Michael J. Graham, SJ*
> > > >
> > >
> >
>