[Magdalen] Dilemma

[ME Michaud]

Clarissa, I don't know where you are (I mean geographically, not
emotionally)
but even the best of your old friends might not be able to give you the
listening ear and the advice you need.

There are professionals who are really good at this,
people who went into their professions wanting to help,
and who have the training to do the work as it should be done.

I hope you can find someone to work with you as you go through your current
dilemma.
You deserve it. So do the people you love and who love you.
-Margaret


On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 5:59 PM Clarissa Canning <canplum at gmail.com> wrote:

>       It is alright to not take my advise , good you got some opinions and
> options.  I ‘d like to share my delimma , living with a big baby who does
> not consult me about buying things.   I am having a hell of a time, but got
> some people to talk to and my anxiety is high .I went totally silent live
> upstairs most of the time. I not so cruel that I stoped helping cook and
> changing ostomy in home er.  why do some guy know how to pick an item that
> really stabs one in the heart ❤️. Clueless . I will never get an apology as
> I have a big mouth too many times. I like to say No too many times .  Thank
> God I found an old friend    an am taking a break for a week .  Almost 45
> years and my choices are not great . Please duck tape me to he wall and put
> tape on the my mouth .  Send $$$ so i can go see my granddaughter in Japan
> . ( just kidding ) It’s true will never go there .   Pray if you wish . it
> will be a long winter.
>
> On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 1:30 PM Marion Thompson <marionwhitevale at gmail.com
> >
> wrote:
>
> > Be strong and firm, Grace..  You have every right to say 'No'.  You are
> not
> > being selfish.  You are being sensible and responsible where he is not.
> > These are not usual times and you should not be asked to jeopardize your
> > health,   and, indeed,  your own Church work and the people you mix with
> as
> > we approach Christmas!
> >
> > Marion, a pilgrim.
> >
> > On Mon, 29 Nov 2021 at 11:23, Grace Cangialosi <gracecan at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> >
> > > I know.
> > >
> > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 7:13 AM ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> > >
> > > > Oh, and as a vaccinated person, you can catch Covid, show no
> symptoms,
> > > but
> > > > still infect others.
> > > > -M
> > > >
> > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 7:12 AM ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com>
> > wrote:
> > > >
> > > > > Besides, tbose pelicans were still chicks (or whatever baby
> pelicans
> > > are
> > > > > called).
> > > > > -M
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 6:53 AM Grace Cangialosi <
> gracecan at gmail.com
> > >
> > > > > wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > >> LOL! I collect pelicans, but no, I don’t plan to emulate their
> > > > >> self-sacrifice!
> > > > >>
> > > > >> > On Nov 29, 2021, at 6:27 AM, ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com>
> > > wrote:
> > > > >> >
> > > > >> > Setting limits with children should end when they become
> adults.
> > > > >> > Usually.
> > > > >> > This one sounds like he just threw his rattle on the floor and
> is
> > > > >> watching
> > > > >> > to see if you'll pick it up and return it to him.
> > > > >> >
> > > > >> > So a big NO on this. You have responsibilities to guard your own
> > > > health
> > > > >> and
> > > > >> > the health of parishoners.
> > > > >> > Unless you're intent on becoming the pelican who shreds its own
> > body
> > > > to
> > > > >> > feed its young.
> > > > >> > -M
> > > > >> >
> > > > >> >
> > > > >> >> On Sun, Nov 28, 2021 at 9:14 PM Grace Cangialosi <
> > > gracecan at gmail.com
> > > > >
> > > > >> wrote:
> > > > >> >>
> > > > >> >> Thank you for your input. I consulted my daughter about it, and
> > she
> > > > >> thinks
> > > > >> >> I’m making too much of it. She said if I’m that concerned, I
> > might
> > > > not
> > > > >> want
> > > > >> >> to ervisit her in Florida. But she and the boys are fully
> > > vaccinated,
> > > > >> and
> > > > >> >> if I go inside anywhere, I’ll wear a mask. Plus, I’m driving
> > down,
> > > > not
> > > > >> >> flying.
> > > > >> >>
> > > > >> >> I’ll just have to bite the bullet and talk to my son about it
> > > > tomorrow.
> > > > >> >> It’s not as simple as “my house, my rules;” this may undo our
> > very
> > > > >> fragile
> > > > >> >> new detente. His reasons are political and extend to all
> > > vaccinations
> > > > >> of
> > > > >> >> any kind or any suggestion that he should wear a mask. He
> > wouldn’t
> > > > >> visit
> > > > >> >> his dad in a nursing home because he had to wear a mask.
> > > > >> >> But I am glad for your input—it basically supports my position.
> > > > >> >>
> > > > >> >>> On Nov 28, 2021, at 4:00 PM, Grace Cangialosi <
> > gracecan at gmail.com
> > > >
> > > > >> >> wrote:
> > > > >> >>>
> > > > >> >>> I had a phone call from my son this morning asking if he
> could
> > > > bring
> > > > >> >> the three boys here on a Saturday in December. He has a job and
> > > can’t
> > > > >> bring
> > > > >> >> them. They are 16, 10, and 8. I don’t really have much for them
> > to
> > > do
> > > > >> here,
> > > > >> >> but I figured maybe we could go out for pizza and maybe go to
> the
> > > > >> community
> > > > >> >> park if it’s not too cold, or to a movie.
> > > > >> >>> But then I remembered that they aren’t vaccinated and won’t
> be.
> > > So I
> > > > >> >> won’t want to take them out for lunch or to a movie. But I’m
> also
> > > not
> > > > >> >> terribly comfortable with the idea of having them here in the
> > house
> > > > all
> > > > >> >> day. I left a message with my son that we need to discuss it,
> > but I
> > > > >> haven’t
> > > > >> >> heard back yet. He told me awhile ago that the whole family had
> > > COVID
> > > > >> back
> > > > >> >> at the beginning, so they don’t need the vaccine, but I’ve
> heard
> > > that
> > > > >> isn’t
> > > > >> >> necessarily true. I know there’s going to be a confrontation
> over
> > > > >> this, and
> > > > >> >> I’d like another opinion or two. Am I overreacting? At the very
> > > > least,
> > > > >> I
> > > > >> >> will insist that they wear masks—he doesn’t believe in those,
> > > either.
> > > > >> >>
> > > > >>
> > > > >
> > > >
> > >
> > >
> > > --
> > > Grace Cangialosi
> > > Ruckersville, VA
> > >
> > > * "Service is what prayer looks like when it gets up off its knees and
> > > walks around in the world"*
> > > *                                              Michael J. Graham, SJ*
> > >
> >
>