[Magdalen] Prayers, for me, and Dawn

[James Oppenheimer-Crawford]

I guess there are pictures and then there are Pictures.  You might regret
tossing all of them, although I can imagine how hard it is to go through
them and pick those that are worth saving, and the horrid depression that
keeps coming at you as you confront this reminder that we all must die and
all of our stuff eventually will be trashed by someone who knows nothing
about it and cares not a bit.

Perhaps your best solution is to point out the specific square footage she
has for her stuff, period. If she knows it's a set amount of space, that's
it.  When you start to unpack, and there's not any more room in her space
(and, no, she doesn't get to commandeer yours) then she has to fix it. You
don't. No point in arguing about it, because it's the space, not your
preferences, she has to answer to.  If she packs a bunch of stuff for which
there's no room, well, she has to deal with it; you don't.

The arguments start when you try to "help" the person to "see" what so
obviously, to you, "needs" to be done.  They see it fine; they just resist
dealing with it.  Your best course is to take care of your own stuff and
leave her alone to take care of her stuff.



James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
*“If you have a chance to accomplish something that will make things better
for people coming behind you, and you don’t do it, you're wasting your time
on this Earth.”  -- *Roberto Clemente

On Fri, Nov 28, 2014 at 8:13 PM, Jon Egger <revegger at gmail.com> wrote:

> Listmates, we move this coming Monday to our ground level, no stairs
> apartment.  I will be happy to be IN Kansas City finally.
>
> The things I have are simply things and I have no attachment to them.  My
> daughter gets some things, my son gets some things, and I'm getting rid of
> my amazing collection of Dylanalia that I have.  What I need is packable in
> just a few boxes.
>
> Dawn has attachments to
> ​ her​
> things thatI don't comprehend.  She's saved tons of stuff and I have
> reminded her that we are downsi​zing​, and we end up arguing things.  I
> have photos of my folks that are simply photos of my folks...they serve me
> no purpose, yet Dawn berates me for not saving them for my kids.​  My
> things will take about 3 hours to pack up
> ​, and that's it.
>
> Listmates, stuff is stuff, and I'm sick of "grrrrrring" under my breath.
>
> I ask your prayers for us as we move.  ​
>
>
> ​+++
> ​
> Grace & peace,
> jon
>