[Magdalen] Marcy update

[Susan Hagen]

Dear Jim,
I don't know what you have promised Marcy or yourself about caring for
her at home.  I know we found that with my mother, even with many hour
of in-home aides, there came a time when the night hours became
impossible.  Later there came a time when her dementia meant that even
the assisted living facility was unable to care for her.  There is a
point where only round the clock skilled nurses can keep someone safe
and healthy. Only multiple skilled hands can lift and turn and prevent
pressure sores and infections.  Only people who work an eight hour
shift and get a break afterwards can cope with the needs of a very
frail person.  I don't know if you and Marcy are there yet.  Only you
will know when it is that time  but I hope you will let yourself do
what you need to do to ensure that she gets the care she needs and you
don't die trying to provide it.  You know we love you.  Please don't
stop sharing this struggle with us.

Susan

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 11:30 PM, AT&T <jhandsfield at att.net> wrote:
> Tonight, Marcy decided she would get up without assistance. I retrieved a cane she wanted. After ten months she gave up (TBTG).  She seems to be in denial that she can't do the things she wants to do. I'm near the end of my rope.
>
> Jim Handsfield
> Sent from my iPhone



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