[Magdalen] Bishop Cook: Another unfortunate piece of the story

[Jay Weigel]

I was married to an alcoholic for 35 years, so I think I know more than I'd
like to about it. Not so judgmental about her except that I think she
presented herself as sober which she was clearly not. I am, however,
feeling kind of judgmental about the standing committee which I don't think
did its job properly.

On Tue, Feb 3, 2015 at 3:59 PM, Molly Wolf <lupa at kos.net> wrote:

> Me too.  I still swim in that vast dark sea, and my faith sometimes comes
> near to drowning, because it's so mixed up with that murky water.
> Alcoholic priest as dad, alcoholic theologian as mother. I wish indeed I
> could click my heels and feel myself lifted out of that sea, but maybe that
> waits for the next life.
>
> Don't be too judgmental of alcoholics.  It isn't something they chose to
> be, and denial is one of the primary symptoms.
>
> Off to Al Anon, which does me a hell of a lot more good than church...
>
> Molly
>
> The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no
> other way. -- Mark Twain
>
> > On Feb 3, 2015, at 3:31 PM, ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > Earlier today I wasted some time reading a list of things people
> > wish they'd learned in college. What *I* wish is that the public
> > schools would require workshops on substance abuse. Not the
> > "just say no" lecture, but a case-study curriculum addressing
> > stuff like alcoholic parents, the trajectories of addiction, and
> > coping skills and responsibilities of the possibly co-dependent,
> > of co-workers and friends.
> >
> > Alot, I know.
> >
> > As I've said before, both my gf's parents died very young. Their
> > drinking reverberates through her life in interesting and complex
> > ways. She's a wonderful person, intelligent, kind and compassionate.
> > Her life could have been so much easier if she'd had the skills to
> > help her comprehend her parents' behaviours. When she speaks
> > about her childhood, it sounds as if she was swimming in a vast
> > dark deep sea of confusion. That if she clicked her heels three times
> > it would all go away.
> > -M
>