[Magdalen] Rant

[Jay Weigel]

Mostly for Allan, but this may refer to Marcy too.....my mother used to say
that when people lose it, "they just become more like themselves." Allan,
it sounds like this is true of Camille, who you describe as "always a
pleasant person." It was certainly true of my mother, who was always a
pleasant and lovable person, right up to her death, even when she could no
longer speak or walk. It was also true of my dad, who was and exacting and
sometimes difficult perfectionist.

Jim, does the hospice supply aides? My former DIL used to be an aide with a
hospice and they were trained to deal with the sort of situation you
describe. And it certainly sounds like Marcy is in the denial stage.
Bargaining will be next, and that's a little easier, if more painful.....

On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 9:55 AM, James Handsfield <jhandsfield at att.net>
wrote:

> I thank everyone for their warm comments and prayers.  As I think of it
> this morning, I’m pretty sure Marcy is still in the denial stage of grief.
> She just hasn’t accepted that she cannot do the things she wants to do,
> even though she clearly cannot do them.
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> Responding to a few of the comments:
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> Sally, yes, some PALS (persons with ALS) do experience dementia with the
> disease, but it’s only 10% - 15%.  Marcy may be in that group.
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> Allan, I a so sorry for your situation.  You and Camille have my prayers
> as well.
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> I’ll call CarePlus today and see if I can upgrade the caregivers to those
> who can handle Marcy’s hostility better.  If they can’t I’ll go to the
> hospice people and see what they recommend.
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> Part of the issue is that as Marcy’s health declines, she starts
> channeling her mother, who was the neediest, most insecure person I’ve ever
> met (Marcy’s sister is close behind - she personifies passive aggressive).
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> Thanks again for listening and for your prayers.
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> Thinking one can behave their way into heaven is an insult to the very
> foundation of salvation.
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> Jim Handsfield
> jhandsfield at att.net
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