[Magdalen] Rant

[Marion Thompson]

My dad was always very polite and courteous.  He remained that way to 
the end when he was in the St. Anne's Veterans Hospital . Despite living 
in the fog of Alzheimer's he was always spolite and pleasant, thanking 
people for whatever came his way.

Marion, a pilgrim    ... today my sail I lift ....
On 2/25/2015 10:20 AM, Jay Weigel wrote:
> Mostly for Allan, but this may refer to Marcy too.....my mother used to say
> that when people lose it, "they just become more like themselves." Allan,
> it sounds like this is true of Camille, who you describe as "always a
> pleasant person." It was certainly true of my mother, who was always a
> pleasant and lovable person, right up to her death, even when she could no
> longer speak or walk. It was also true of my dad, who was and exacting and
> sometimes difficult perfectionist.
>
> Jim, does the hospice supply aides? My former DIL used to be an aide with a
> hospice and they were trained to deal with the sort of situation you
> describe. And it certainly sounds like Marcy is in the denial stage.
> Bargaining will be next, and that's a little easier, if more painful.....
>
> On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 9:55 AM, James Handsfield <jhandsfield at att.net>
> wrote:
>
>> I thank everyone for their warm comments and prayers.  As I think of it
>> this morning, I’m pretty sure Marcy is still in the denial stage of grief.
>> She just hasn’t accepted that she cannot do the things she wants to do,
>> even though she clearly cannot do them.
>>
>> Responding to a few of the comments:
>>
>> Sally, yes, some PALS (persons with ALS) do experience dementia with the
>> disease, but it’s only 10% - 15%.  Marcy may be in that group.
>>
>> Allan, I a so sorry for your situation.  You and Camille have my prayers
>> as well.
>>
>> I’ll call CarePlus today and see if I can upgrade the caregivers to those
>> who can handle Marcy’s hostility better.  If they can’t I’ll go to the
>> hospice people and see what they recommend.
>>
>> Part of the issue is that as Marcy’s health declines, she starts
>> channeling her mother, who was the neediest, most insecure person I’ve ever
>> met (Marcy’s sister is close behind - she personifies passive aggressive).
>>
>> Thanks again for listening and for your prayers.
>>
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>> Thinking one can behave their way into heaven is an insult to the very
>> foundation of salvation.
>>
>> Jim Handsfield
>> jhandsfield at att.net
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