[Magdalen] Some regrets

[Ginga Wilder]

Jim,
Of course you need respite time to fill up...caregiving with the degree of
love you give to Marcy brings you to empty, with little to give. Filling up
will allow you to continue again.  Taking time away to fill up is the
loving thing to do for yourself and for Marcy.

I read how hard this is.  My heart breaks for you and for Marcy.  Truly,
when I read your most honest words, my gut wrenches.  I believe that is my
most authentic prayer for you...a gut wrenching "O God! Jim and Marcy."

Ginga

On Thu, Jul 2, 2015 at 6:44 AM, Judy Fleener <fleenerj at gmail.com> wrote:

> Your post made me weep, Jim.  All my love go out to you and marcy.
>
> On Thu, Jul 2, 2015 at 2:31 AM, Roger Stokes <
> roger.stokes65 at btinternet.com>
> wrote:
>
> > On 02/07/2015 06:01, Jim Handsfield wrote:
> >
> >> Next week I'll be taking some respite time. I think I've come to realize
> >> the difficulties involved. Marcy really doesn't want to be left alone,
> even
> >> if the care is good and she'll have lots of visitors at Hospice Atlanta
> >> Center. I need this.
> >>
> >> But what I resent is needing to do so. Marcy is my joy, and I resent
> that
> >> the goddamn disease makes it necessary from time to time to get away and
> >> leave her in the care of others.  WTF is this all about, when I need to
> >> leave the one I love to protect my own well being?
> >>
> >
> > A wise proest once said to me that if we are to love others as we loce
> > ourselves then we need to first love ourselves.  If you don't take care
> of
> > yourself thenwhat do you have to offer Marcy?
> >
> > Roger
> >
>
>
>
> --
> Judy Fleener, ObJN
> Western Michigan
>