[Magdalen] Some regrets

[Jay Weigel]

I think I understand, Jim. I loved being a nurse (not the same way you love
Marcy, but I think you will understand what I mean) so I am fully aware of
the need for down time. You have to care for yourself so you can care for
Marcy. I also understand that Marcy will not "get" that. Both things are
okay. The golden hammock enwraps you both.

On Thu, Jul 2, 2015 at 8:55 AM, Ginga Wilder <gingawilder at gmail.com> wrote:

> Jim,
> Of course you need respite time to fill up...caregiving with the degree of
> love you give to Marcy brings you to empty, with little to give. Filling up
> will allow you to continue again.  Taking time away to fill up is the
> loving thing to do for yourself and for Marcy.
>
> I read how hard this is.  My heart breaks for you and for Marcy.  Truly,
> when I read your most honest words, my gut wrenches.  I believe that is my
> most authentic prayer for you...a gut wrenching "O God! Jim and Marcy."
>
> Ginga
>
> On Thu, Jul 2, 2015 at 6:44 AM, Judy Fleener <fleenerj at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> > Your post made me weep, Jim.  All my love go out to you and marcy.
> >
> > On Thu, Jul 2, 2015 at 2:31 AM, Roger Stokes <
> > roger.stokes65 at btinternet.com>
> > wrote:
> >
> > > On 02/07/2015 06:01, Jim Handsfield wrote:
> > >
> > >> Next week I'll be taking some respite time. I think I've come to
> realize
> > >> the difficulties involved. Marcy really doesn't want to be left alone,
> > even
> > >> if the care is good and she'll have lots of visitors at Hospice
> Atlanta
> > >> Center. I need this.
> > >>
> > >> But what I resent is needing to do so. Marcy is my joy, and I resent
> > that
> > >> the goddamn disease makes it necessary from time to time to get away
> and
> > >> leave her in the care of others.  WTF is this all about, when I need
> to
> > >> leave the one I love to protect my own well being?
> > >>
> > >
> > > A wise proest once said to me that if we are to love others as we loce
> > > ourselves then we need to first love ourselves.  If you don't take care
> > of
> > > yourself thenwhat do you have to offer Marcy?
> > >
> > > Roger
> > >
> >
> >
> >
> > --
> > Judy Fleener, ObJN
> > Western Michigan
> >
>