[Magdalen] Near the end of my rope

[Grace Cangialosi]

Unfortunately, the situation here is much the same with regard to caregivers. It's a terribly difficult job with long hours and lousy pay.
Would your upcoming trip be a good to transition to the hospice facility, since she'll be going there for respite care anyway?

> On Mar 9, 2015, at 7:43 AM, Allan Carr <allanc25 at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> As of tonight (indeed.com), there are 352 caregiver jobs open here in
> Thousand Oaks, CA,  a town of about 130,000. The Hispanic or Latino
> population is only 17% and the pay is low. So there is some incentive to
> leave a highly stressful situation for one less stressful, or paying
> slightly more, or having better (sometimes longer) hours, or avoiding
> stressful commutes, or attending community college for a better job, or
> whatever.
> At the moment, I think our caregiver is happy, but a good bit of my stress
> in the last couple of years has been worrying about the length of stay of
> our caregivers for reasons cited above, and we raily get any notice.
> 
> 
>> On Sunday, March 8, 2015, Lynn Ronkainen <houstonklr at gmail.com> wrote:
>> 
>> Thoughts and prayers here Jim. It is possible that your current health
>> care group is not hiring capable aids. Marcy's behavior though very
>> difficult and especially hard on you is to be expected of anyone who still
>> has their mental faculties in a situation like this as difficult as that
>> is. Any hospice aid should be prepared for this and have skills to keep
>> themselves from taking it personally.
>> I hope your time away is one of respite and renewal of energy.
>> Peace Lynn
>> 
>> Sent from my iPhone
>> 
>> On Mar 8, 2015, at 8:09 PM, James Handsfield <jhandsfield at att.net
>> <javascript:;>> wrote:
>> 
>> Sorry to burden you all with this.  Yesterday evening Marcy bullied the
>> evening aide, and today she quit.  I don't blame her (the aide that is), so
>> tonight I'm caring for Marcy on my own.  That is doable - I've done it
>> before.  But it feels like she's forgotten that she cares for me and is
>> happy to have aides leave.  I'm about to change agencies, and maybe that
>> will make a difference.
>> 
>> I'm off to Hawaii for 12 days in a week.  Marcy will be at Hospice Atlanta
>> Center during that time.  But right now I need stamina and strength.  I'm
>> crying as I write this.
>> 
>> -------------------------------------
>> Education is its own reward, both for the individual and for society.
>> 
>> Jim Handsfield
>> jhandsfield at att.net <javascript:;>
> 
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> Allan Carr