[Magdalen] "No parent should ever have to bury their child."

[Jay Weigel]

I know someone who participates in a group that knits/crochets little hats
and blankets for babies who are stillborn. She had had a 22 week abortion
of a baby who would not have survived due to severe birth defects and had
chosen to see the baby. The baby was brought to her in a hat and blanket
made by a similar group. This is her way of grieving the baby's loss and
also paying back.

On Sun, Oct 4, 2015 at 1:22 AM, James Oppenheimer-Crawford <
oppenheimerjw at gmail.com> wrote:

> My wife every so often mentioned her brother Mark, who would have been a
> little older than her. He was stillborn, and buried in Pittsburgh where
> they were living at the time. My mother-in-law never spoke of Mark, but he
> was a shadowy figure in the family that was never mentioned.
>
> Christine did some checking and found, yes, they knew exactly where Mark
> was resting, and she arranged to have a modest stone put on the grave, and
> a picture sent to her mother. Helen was very grateful.  She had two
> children who had lived, so she probably thought she ought to push this
> memory away, but it was always there.
>
> She was a marvelous seamstress, and got asked to assist in a group which
> sews dresses for the still born children so they can be buried in an
> appropriate garb. She told her daughter she was not sure she could bear to
> do it, but after she simply got started, she found it fulfilling. Helen was
> one of those people who would take absolutely any event that came her way
> and find a way to make good come out of it, and I am so very privileged to
> be married to her daughter, who has inherited a lot of that from her.
>
>
> James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
> *“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
> except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy
>
> On Sat, Oct 3, 2015 at 6:37 PM, Jay Weigel <jay.weigel at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> > In March of next year it will be 45 years since we buried our Benjamin,
> who
> > lived three months. Benjie was born healthy and always seemed like a
> > healthy baby, but I put him to bed one night and he never woke up. SIDS
> is
> > a horrible thing and I don't think the newest "solutions" are the answer
> > either. October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, just FYI.
> >
> >
> >
> > On Sat, Oct 3, 2015 at 4:28 PM, <thedonboyd at austin.rr.com> wrote:
> >
> > > Next month it will have been twenty-three years since our daughter Amy
> > > (aged 24)was killed by a drunk driver.  I have no words of comfort for
> > the
> > > families of the ten who died in Oregon.   In time they will be able to
> go
> > > on with their lives without being reminded of their loss at every turn,
> > but
> > > the event will prove to have profoundly changed their lives in ways
> they
> > > cannot now foresee.
> > >
> > > Lord, have mercy.  Christ, have mercy.  Lord, have mercy.
> > >
> >
>