[Magdalen] Wedding Advice

[Marion Thompson]

I agree with Brud's sage advice.  The gathering should be elsewhere, 
especially if, as makes great sense under the circumstances, you are 
consciously/deliberately opening the service to the congregation.

Marion, a pilgrim

On 9/4/2015 2:11 PM, Jon Egger wrote:
> Congratulations again, Rick.  When I saw the title, my advice would have
> been "The jobs of the mother and mother-in-law are to wear beige and keep
> their mouths shut." But alas...I think a gathering at home, or in a park,
> or other place.  Not the church.
>
> My dos centavo,
> brud
>
> On Fri, Sep 4, 2015 at 12:28 PM, Jo Craddock <jocraddock at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> On 09/04/2015 10:28 AM, Rick Mashburn wrote:
>>
>>> As y'all know, Alex and I were married in a civil ceremony in Santa Fe in
>>> May. We're planning our church service for November. Currently, the
>>> liturgy
>>> that is approved calls the service the "Celebration of a Lifelong
>>> Covenant"
>>> but I'm hoping it can be the "Blessing of a Civil Marriage" by the time
>>> the
>>> bulletins are printed. We've requested permission from the Bishop to call
>>> it that
>>>
>> I'll be interested to hear how the details work, Rick, in both regards,
>> and I'm very excited for you and Alex!
>>
>> I'm old-fashioned enough to think the ceremony invitation is one thing,
>> and the reception another. Or, to avoid any awkwardness, open the reception
>> and have a private dinner celebration another time.
>>
>> It was my understanding the sacrament of marriage doesn't "officially"
>> open until Advent 1. This also requires some detail work, I imagine; we
>> have some married-elsewhere couples at St. James who have held off the
>> current options (while others have opted for them). Does the blessing of an
>> already-performed civil marriage open to equality before Advent 1? I don't
>> know that we have any couples chomping at the bit, but I expect some dates
>> may be requested by early next (secular) year.
>>
>> Peace,
>> Jo
>>