[Magdalen] Loaned out

[James Oppenheimer-Crawford]

You are being used by a manipulator.

The simple response is "Sorry but it is simply impossible."

Repeat as needed.

The trick is, never, never, never, NEVER explain.  This manipulator will
just be very happy to explain to you, in detail, why your reasons are
invalid, and keep pushing you to enable them to use you once more.

If the person needs help, why you?  Are you "loaded"?  Or are you someone
they know they can manipulate?

We had a person come to our church asking for money so that he could get
home.  I told him I would drive him home. He lost interest about two blocks
from the church.

James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
*“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy

On Wed, Sep 9, 2015 at 11:20 AM, Scott Knitter <scottknitter at gmail.com>
wrote:

> Well, my requestor just asked what about 500 instead of a thousand? So
> saying no once is unacceptable; I have to say no yet again or just do
> it. I'm inclined to just do it as this eats me up and I need to get on
> with my actual work and other demands. Lord, have mercy.
>
> On Wed, Sep 9, 2015 at 10:17 AM, Scott Knitter <scottknitter at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> > Thanks, Judy.
> >
> > What about all the articles one sees from time to time taking fellow
> > Christians to task for saying no to those who ask, and for walking
> > past those requesting money in the street without stopping to make eye
> > contact, speak and spend time with them, and give them what they ask
> > for? Some of those articles really beat everyone over the head, and I
> > think about them for a long time. Usually Mother Theresa is quoted to
> > make the point we're called to give always and to trust. I'm not sure
> > I'm capable, mea culpa.
> >
> > Give always seems antithetical to being responsible (and effective in
> > the Kingdom here on earth in use of earthly resources). I struggle
> > with this constantly, especially as I imagine what life here in
> > Chicago would be like if I never ignored anyone.
> >
> > On Wed, Sep 9, 2015 at 10:12 AM, Judy Fleener <fleenerj at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> >> You were generous in lending in the first place.  We are in a difficult
> >> financial position, one we probably won't live long enough to escape,
> >> because we rescued some of our children.  We also made some bad spending
> >> choices.  Think about your future, Scott.
> >> from an old lady, Judy
> >>
> >> On Wed, Sep 9, 2015 at 10:42 AM, Scott Knitter <scottknitter at gmail.com>
> >> wrote:
> >>
> >>> I seem to be the focus of requests to borrow money this year. Now I
> feel
> >>> loaned out and overspent, and sure enough, this morning there's a
> request
> >>> from a former colleague not only for a delay in repaying me but also
> for
> >>> doubling of what I've lent him. I wonder what's going on all of a
> sudden.
> >>> I'm going to say no, despite our call as Christians always to give and
> in
> >>> fact never to ignore any of the many people one encounters daily who
> ask
> >>> for money but to give each of them full attention and time as well as
> what
> >>> they ask for. I'm a little freaked out about having to turn him down
> and of
> >>> course he'll be in sad straits partly because of my insufficient
> >>> generosity.
> >>>
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >> --
> >> Judy Fleener, ObJN
> >> Western Michigan
> >
> >
> >
> > --
> > Scott R. Knitter
> > Edgewater, Chicago, Illinois USA
>
>
>
> --
> Scott R. Knitter
> Edgewater, Chicago, Illinois USA
>