[Magdalen] Happy 2016

[Sally Davies]

Shielding you from anxiety?!

Just as well I'm a few thousand miles away Scott, or I might just give him
a smack for pulling that stunt. Or what about putting a balloon full of
cold water on a door, letting it fall on him as he comes through it, and
then suggesting he might thank you for shielding him from anxiety, by not
telling him about it?

Bah. I hope that now that's over, you're getting some needed down time to
recover.

Sally D

On Friday, January 1, 2016, Scott Knitter <scottknitter at gmail.com> wrote:

> Ginga, well done with the honest opt-out! I've reminded my dearest that I
> need to know plans to host people and need a chance to prepare or opt out.
> He feels he's shielding me from anxiety. I told him this made it a painful
> day for me...actually much more anxiety. Yes, I stepped up and was
> welcoming (nothing is the guest's fault, after all) but didn't know it was
> an overnight stay. Another tidbit I needed shielding from, I guess.
>
> The saying of No does need practice but it also needs to be an option in
> the first place.
>
> Sent from my iPad
>
> > On Dec 31, 2015, at 7:46 PM, Ginga Wilder <gingawilder at gmail.com
> <javascript:;>> wrote:
> >
> > John and I don't party much any longer, by our choice.  I gave up many of
> > the 'shoulds' in my life years ago...it is much better that way.  And, I
> am
> > a nicer person.  Scott, take the risk to express your wishes and follow
> > them through.  Love you!
>