[Magdalen] update.

[Cantor03 at aol.com]

In a message dated 7/5/2016 12:18:06 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,  
jay.weigel at gmail.com writes:

I wish  my late ex and I had been able to have that kind of relationship.
However,  his disease made him vote in favor of hate, although he did have
moments.  I'm rather glad he went before Adam did. He would not have been
able to  deal with that in any  fashion.>>>>>>>>>>>
 
Divorce in the USA is often hell.
 
Initially in the proceedings, my ex-wife expressed the frequent  desire
to keep it all friendly and loving, and I agreed. This sounds  wonderful,
and I've seen situations where this was the pattern, especially if  there
are children involved.  There was utterly no fighting or even  tension
over money and possessions.
 
A fellow dermatologist, who was in my residency class, and his wife
tried to be as helpful as possible and not take sides.  We used to  vacation
together, and were close.  He and his wife are Jewish.  They knew  of a
family counselor who happened to a be a rabbi's wife, and we saw her
together for about a year.  She was excellent.
 
Then, when it appeared the inevitable divorce would take place, the
same friends suggested a counselor for me and one for my ex-wife.   I
got nothing out of my counselor, and in fact, I was teaching him  rather
than vice-versa.  The counselor for my ex-wife was a disaster.   She was
a radical feminist and a complete misandrist.  I happened to see  a letter
she had written my ex because the latter placed it by mistake in one of 
my dresser drawers.  I've never heard such hate and misinformation,  and
the terrible part was that she was referring to me!
 
That ended the "friendly" divorce, and from that point on it was lawyer  to
lawyer.
 
 
David Strang..