[Magdalen] Another Bereavement

[Ann Markle]

Christopher,
I'm so sorry to hear of your father's death. I just read your message
tonight, and am sorry to be responding so late. It's always hard to lose a
parent. I remember initially feeling considerable relief when my mom died,
due to her physical and cognitive impairment; but I miss her more than ever
now. Bless your dad,bless you, be well. I'm glad the Eucharist was a
comfort to you.

On Tuesday, March 15, 2016, Christopher Hart <cervus51 at gmail.com> wrote:

> Dear Friends in the Pub,
>
> I want to let you all know that my father, Oliver James Hart (Jr.), passed
> away early this morning. He was a week shy of his 93rd birthday, but had
> not been in good health for some time. His legs were weak and his hearing
> was very poor, but you can manage those issues. More recently, however, he
> had developed dementia. He and his second wife (a.k.a. stepmother although
> I hold no affection for the woman) lived in Sarasota, Florida and had moved
> to a retirement home a few years ago which fortunately had built in nursing
> facilities when the time came for Dad to move into those. My brother has
> been in greater contact than I due largely to the fact that he travels to
> Florida from time to time and has been able to visit. Also, being an
> attorney, he is more acquainted with the various things that need to be
> done in the current situation. He is going down there tomorrow. I offered
> to go down also, which he would have welcomed, but stepmother doesn't want
> me to come so it appears that I will stay in Pennsylvania. A memorial
> service will, I'm told, take place in the summer in Maine where the family
> summer home is located and I trust that I will not be shut out from that.
>
> ​As I've said a few times today already, I feel as though I have not really
> had my father in my life for a while because his poor hearing made phone
> calls virtually ​impossible and after the dementia set in it was useless
> anyway, but there is still an awful finality when the long expected moment
> arrives.
>
> ​I did manage to get to a mass this evening​ which felt like the right
> thing. Your prayers are, of course, welcome.
> --
>
> Christopher Hart
>
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>


-- 
The Rev. Ann Markle
Buffalo, NY
ann.markle at aya.yale.edu