[Magdalen] Everett @ the DMV.

[Jay Weigel]

S/O agrees that he would have benefited from a gap year. He says he was in
no way ready to start college when he did and had absolutely no business
being there, but at that time, with the draft looming and the U.S. still in
Vietnam, gap years were not an option for young men.

On Tue, May 10, 2016 at 6:47 PM, Kristin Rollins <kristin at verumsolum.com>
wrote:

> On Tue, May 10, 2016, at 02:53 PM, Jay Weigel wrote:
> > I know I would have benefited greatly from a gap year, even just to
> > decide
> > whether college was for me at that time or not, but my parents would not
> > hear of it. It was push-push-push all the time. As a result, I was
> > completely unready for college and f**ed it up completely, making a poor
> > choice of colleges, then transferring and flunking out. I was far too
> > immature to be in college, period. When I went back after my year out I
> > did
> > pretty well, on balance, but then I messed up by getting married (to
> > someone completely wrong for me) and dropped out again to go to work.
> > After
> > that I didn't go back until I decided to go to nursing school in my
> > 30s....and graduated magna, but that's a whole other story.
>
> I wish I would have taken some time. There was much learning I needed
> before college. Even just a year of learning to live on my own, without
> Mom and Dad right there. I don't know if it would have made much
> difference in my (lack of) college success, but I suspect it would
> either of made some difference or at least made me aware of other
> options (either permanent choices or choices to allow a further delay
> before college).
>
> Kristin
>
> --
>   Kristin Rollins
>   kristin at verumsolum.com
>   Portsmouth, VA
>
>