[Magdalen] Wages of Alcohol

[Jay Weigel]

My late ex drank and smoked himself to death. My son sought refuge from his
demons in alcohol. My older son (the autistic one) does not drink at all.
My daughter enjoys a glass of wine now and then, as does her husband, and
he has a few beers with his buddies on occasion, but he is rigidly sober
anywhere around work, including nights off during the week; he works on
cell towers, so that only makes sense. His father was an alcoholic, and he
did not speak to him after he was 12 years old and his mother left the man.
My S/O's parents both died of causes directly related to alcohol. He drinks
an occasional glass of wine. My parents enjoyed a drink or a glass of beer
or wine now and then but that was it. I like a glass of wine with my meals.
I drank more at different times in my life. Alcohol at various times didn't
improve relationships.

On Mon, May 23, 2016 at 5:22 PM, Molly Wolf <lupa at kos.net> wrote:

> I'm in recovery from my own long history of self-medicating with booze,
> and I can think of my own alcoholic parents with compassion.  Nobody ever
> starts out saying "I think when I grow up, I'll be an alcoholic."  I'm not
> sure they'd have been good parents if they hadn't been alcoholics, but
> booze sure as hell added mightily to the family dysfunction, to my own
> issues, and to my lousy relationships with my sisters.
>
> Molly
>
> The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no
> other way. -- Mark Twain
>
> > On May 23, 2016, at 4:03 PM, Cantor03--- via Magdalen <
> magdalen at herberthouse.org> wrote:
> >
> >
> >
> > In a message dated 5/23/2016 3:35:46 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
> > michaudme at gmail.com writes:
> >
> > I  watched the gf's parents drink themselves to death.
> >
> > More horribly, I  watched her watch them ditto.  The damage done to her
> is
> > incalculable,  and much of it remains lurking under the surface of what
> > would otherwise be  a happy and full-functioning life. She's done alot of
> > work to make it less  painful, but it will never be completely gone.
> >
> > I've always said that  if-and-when I see her mother again, I'm going to
> slap
> > the living shit out  of  her.
> > -M>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
> >
> > For me it's a family disease which is well known but was never talked
> about
> > back in the day.  My younger brother (the really smart one) killed
> himself
> > with booze at 50.  My father had three sibs (2 physicians, and a
> dentist).
> > Two of them drank themselves to death.
> >
> > My father had to deal with the wreckage of the family during the  descent
> > into hell of the dentist who lived nearby.  Father knew family  members
> > needed to leave alcohol alone.  He always referred to ethanol as "fire
> > water"
> > after the nick-name given it by the local Chippewa/Ojibway Indians.
> >
> >
> > David Strang.
> >
> >
>
>