[Magdalen] A question for the organists who are on the list...

[Jay Weigel]

If you don't stand up for yourself, no one else will.

On Tue, Nov 22, 2016 at 6:45 AM, sheila ketler via Magdalen <
magdalen at herberthouse.org> wrote:

> Greetings everyoneI intended to ask your advice about a problem so I will
> tell you what the problem is and then I am goingto tell you what I did
> about it...There is a funeral on Thursday and this is the third funeral
> within six months where they have hiredanother organist to play instead of
> me. First one was one that I didn't know about  second one wasthe rector's
> husband but this third one is the third time that they will not pay me my
> customary benchfee. Now every time they have hired someone else I have had
> to remind the priest that she owes methe fee. So the husband said to me did
> you ask for your bench fee? and I said no. She had called meand I wondered
> why she did as they didn't want me to play? I guess she thought I cared
> that an exchoir member had passed away. No choir for two years now and he
> was never very faithful in hisattendance at least not while I was
> there... After careful thought I composed a very carefully worded email. I
> advised her that I knew she wouldthink I should attend the funeral but that
> I had attended her husband's funeral for two reasons : oneI really liked
> him (and I really did...) and  two he was her husband and she was my boss I
> felt it rightto attend. Then I told her that there had been 3 funerals
> within six months and the other two had notpaid me out my bench fee. This
> third time I felt it was high time that I be reimbursed and I trustedthat
> she would do the right thing.Now email is gone now I am worrying I did the
> wrong thing but I am out of work in a month anyway..and with money being so
> tight and soon to be non-existent I didn't think I had any choice...
> Help!!!
> Sheila
>