[Magdalen] Life's blessings

[James Oppenheimer-Crawford]

I did that for a few years, and finally decided it was not working, so that
was that.

James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
*“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy

On Sun, Oct 23, 2016 at 7:48 AM, Marion Thompson <marionwhitevale at gmail.com>
wrote:

> I have certainly not disappeared, but have soldiered on and really I have
> found a niche that works for me.  Far better than creeping away as others
> have done.  This has worked for me.
>
> Marion, a  pilgrim
>
>
> On 10/22/2016 4:59 PM, James Oppenheimer-Crawford wrote:
>
>> IThe best course of action is
>> to disappear. That's what I did. It just was too painful to look at
>> people's eyes and know I was being judged. And the day the bishop and I
>> came face to face and he just acted like there was nothing going on. Had
>> to
>> get away. At this late date, I have come back in a very cautious way, at a
>> new parish.  I don't bring up my past, except to the rector, so he knows
>>   the score. Most of the people involved in my case have move on or moved
>> out.
>>
>> No human-based process can ever be perfect. None.
>>
>> I try to think that my rejection helped me dodge a bullet, as hurtful to
>> so
>> many as it was.
>>
>>
>>
>> James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
>> *“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
>> except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy
>>
>> On Fri, Oct 21, 2016 at 9:37 PM, ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>> I think I've said this before,
>>> but anyway ...
>>> I have several friends who were denied ordination,
>>> and some of them were terribly wounded by the experience.
>>> A couple of them have had very nasty passive-aggressive
>>> relations with the church, maybe as a kind of revenge.
>>> Or else the committee & bishop made a good call.
>>> Not sure which.
>>>
>>> I wish the church did a better job with the aftermath/fallout.
>>> But the tendency is to drop people HARD and then turn away.
>>>
>>> One of my friends (most assuredly now held in Jesus' arms)
>>> was of the older school, men who couldn't meet the Latin requirement.
>>> He spent his life in the church, exercising a deaconal ministry,
>>> and died much loved and admired by the parish.
>>> IMO (in my observation) the RCs are much better at this than we are.
>>> -M
>>>
>>>
>>> On Friday, October 21, 2016, Marion Thompson <marionwhitevale at gmail.com>
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>> open the door a crack and let out some pain that lurks in the shadows.
>>>> Isn't this all why people go to therapists and talk things out?  I could
>>>> keep one busy for a very long time.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
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