[Magdalen] P.S. Re: Update

[Molly Wolf]

Two more rounds of chemo, one on Tuesday, the last one three weeks later, then a month off, then five weeks of daily radiation treatments.  So I should be completely finished by late May, but the worst should be over by early April, when I start to recover from the last round of chemo. Or so I hope and pray.

Molly

The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way. -- Mark Twain

> On Feb 18, 2017, at 11:48 PM, James Oppenheimer-Crawford <oppenheimerjw at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> It may very easily be my bad, Molly. I do not always get through an entire
> post because of my ADD.  I try to accommodate, but something will distract
> me, and I often do not recall where I was before.
> 
> It's a long, grueling chain of events.  Is there a projected duration of
> treatments, or is it indefinite?
> 
> James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
> *“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
> except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy
> 
>> On Sat, Feb 18, 2017 at 3:43 PM, Molly Wolf <lupa at kos.net> wrote:
>> 
>> Actually, I'm heading into the worst of it.  Tuesday is my third of four
>> chemo treatments.  The debility caused by chemo is cumulative.  I'm already
>> suffering from debilitating fatigue.  Treatment #3 is going to be tough
>> sledding and #4 will be worse. After that, a month off to recuperate before
>> starting radiation.
>> 
>> I thought I had mentioned this in previous posts.  Obviously not.
>> 
>> Mollu
>> 
>> The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no
>> other way. -- Mark Twain
>> 
>>> On Feb 18, 2017, at 3:26 PM, James Oppenheimer-Crawford <
>> oppenheimerjw at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> 
>>> Perhaps with your present experiences, you may be just the person to
>> assist
>>> them in figuring out what they might do, and they might also listen to
>> you,
>>> which cannot hurt.  I hope you are on the mend and will soon be thriving!
>>> 
>>> James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
>>> *“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
>>> except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy
>>> 
>>>> On Sat, Feb 18, 2017 at 3:18 PM, Molly Wolf <lupa at kos.net> wrote:
>>>> 
>>>> Barbara is one of our associate clergy and the closest to me in peppery
>>>> Episcopalianism.  She said that we really need more and younger people
>> on
>>>> the Pastoral Care Committee.  I mean to make an issue of this when I'm
>> well
>>>> enough, because the parish knows it has a problem but doesn't have a
>> clue
>>>> about what to do about it.
>>>> 
>>>> Molly
>>>> 
>>>> The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in
>> no
>>>> other way. -- Mark Twain
>>>> 
>>>>> On Feb 18, 2017, at 3:06 PM, Ginga Wilder <gingawilder at gmail.com>
>> wrote:
>>>>> 
>>>>> (((((Molly)))))  I am glad you spoke with Barbara...is she your priest?
>>>>> 
>>>>> I think another important part of all this ministry thing is that
>> things
>>>>> need to be kept current.  I don't just mean who is on the prayer list
>> or
>>>>> who needs soup.  Rather, I mean that lots of very excellent information
>>>> is
>>>>> 'out there' on how to do lay ministry in a parish and found it on all
>>>>> manner of scriptural references....as in love your neighbor as
>> yourself.
>>>>> Churches can be clueless about that.  The foundation is love.
>>>>> 
>>>>> Love you,
>>>>> Ginga
>>>>> 
>>>>> On Sat, Feb 18, 2017 at 2:54 PM, Lynn Ronkainen <houstonklr at gmail.com>
>>>>> wrote:
>>>>> 
>>>>>> ((((Molly)))) I am glad that you reached out and I am pleased that you
>>>>>> will be ministered to. It's complicated isn't it? Maybe your situation
>>>> will
>>>>>> impact things in your parish going forward.
>>>>>> Hugs and love
>>>>>> Lynn
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> On Feb 18, 2017, at 2:37 PM, Molly Wolf <lupa at kos.net> wrote:
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> Grace, I am undergoing treatment for breast cancer.  I am on the
>> parish
>>>>>> prayer list.  No ESP required.
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> I just had a long, fruitful, and satisfying conversation with one of
>> our
>>>>>> associate priests, which covered all of my concerns.
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> The parish does have a Pastoral Care Committee, median age 80+, which
>> is
>>>>>> tireless in looking after the pastoral needs of its age cohort but not
>>>> so
>>>>>> good at remembering younger folk.  (This is also true of ACWs in the
>>>>>> smaller parishes.).
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> Fear of being intrusive inhibits people from calling.  This, I
>> suspect,
>>>> is
>>>>>> one of the most deeply established holy cultural shibboleths in our
>>>> local
>>>>>> culture:  that suffering is supposed to be private.  It's true of
>>>> physical
>>>>>> suffering ("stiff upper lip") but it's especially true of emotional,
>>>>>> psychological, or spiritual suffering.  Sitting with someone else's
>>>>>> suffering terrifies people because they expect to have to fix the
>>>> sufferer.
>>>>>> So people care, but they don't act.
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> It took some courage to call Barbara, but I've done it.  So I can now
>>>>>> expect soup, at least.  Which is great.
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> And ESP? It's two way.  How is the sufferer supposed to know that
>> people
>>>>>> care if nobody does or says anything?
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> Molly
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in
>>>> no
>>>>>> other way. -- Mark Twain
>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> On Feb 18, 2017, at 2:11 PM, Grace Cangialosi <gracecan at gmail.com>
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> Oh. Well, I guess their clergy *did* have ESP then...
>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>> On Feb 18, 2017, at 10:44 AM, James Handsfield <jhandsfield at att.net
>>> 
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>> No, there were a few people who insisted that clergy should simply
>>>> know
>>>>>> when someone is in need of a pastoral visit, and neither they, nor he
>>>> would
>>>>>> let it go.
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>> -------------------------------------
>>>>>>>> Education is its own reward, both for the individual and for
>> society.
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>> Jim Handsfield
>>>>>>>> jhandsfield at att.net
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>>> On Feb 18, 2017, at 9:54 AM, Grace Cangialosi <gracecan at gmail.com>
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>>> What, Jim...no one visited him?
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> 
>>>> 
>>>> 
>> 
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