[Magdalen] I need to vent...

[Scott Knitter]

I understand your anger and your feeling of surprise that a family member
would do that sort of thing. I'd feel the same way. It sets up a forced
prioritization.

In general I think it isn't a good idea to attach one's wedding to a
holiday observance, either. So every single New Year's Eve from now on,
it's also their anniversary. I think it better to find a separate date so
the anniversary can be celebrated as its own thing (and New Year's Eve as
its own thing).

But the real issue is their setting that date on your birthday, which
existed almost 50 years before their wedding date did. Not thoughtful of
them. I would bet that they're going to get pressure (and rightfully so)
from several family members to pick a better wedding day.

On Tue, Sep 5, 2017 at 9:30 AM, Richard S. Crawford <richard at underpope.com>
wrote:

> My sister has been dating her boyfriend for over six years. They recently
> got engaged, and have set a date: this coming New Year's Eve. Which also
> just happens to be my 50th birthday. We only found out on Saturday night.
> When I expressed surprised that my sister would schedule her wedding on my
> milestone birthday to my mom, my mom replied, "Don't worry, you'll be able
> to get home to see your admirers later in the day." It *is* a morning
> wedding, but my wife and I live nearly 150 miles away from the rest of my
> family, and we're not particularly keen on driving home from San Jose back
> to Sacramento on New Year's Eve, no matter what time of day. I suppose it
> is fortunate that my wife and I had only just started making plans for my
> birthday party that night... said party now to be scheduled a week later
> than originally planned.
>
> Last night my other sister pinged my wife on Facebook and said, "I can't
> believe our sister planned her wedding on my brother's 50th birthday." So
> I'm not the only surprised one in the family.
>
> So... I suppose I'm angry. At my sister, at her fiance, at my mom. I'm not
> used to feeling angry at my family, and it's messing with my head big time.
> I've been having trouble sleeping, and what-not.
>
> So... prayers, please, that I get over this anger quickly. I want to be
> happy for my sister, but my anger is overshadowing that.
>



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Scott R. Knitter
Edgewater, Chicago, Illinois USA