[Magdalen] A bit of a problem.. any suggestions ??

[Marion Thompson]

My advice is to stay well out of it!   Way way out of it!!!!  To get involved sounds like a recipe for disaster.

Marion, a pilgrim

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From: Sheila Ketler
Sent: April 22, 2018 4:19 PM
To: magdalen at herberthouse.org
Subject: Re: [Magdalen] A bit of a problem.. any suggestions ??

Well the other organist was approached (no one was aware of the fact that
Delores is related to my son or is soon to be related to him. )and she
cancelled her other commitment (she works at another parish a job she
snaffled right out from under my nose...) and so she is committed... The
family didn't seem to realize they should speak with the priest about it
but delores was speaking with my son and she said she didn't want the
b....... with the broken leg playing her funeral so she was pretty adamant
about it...!!
She didn't like her one little bit... well I agree neither do I...

Sheila

On Sun, Apr 22, 2018 at 11:57 AM, Grace Cangialosi <gracecan at gmail.com>
wrote:

> Well, others may disagree with me, but my advice is not to insert yourself
> into this situation at this point, but let the family work it out with the
> priest. Do not offer; that can only backfire.
>
> It’s not clear from your post whether the funeral is imminent, but at this
> point, it isn’t your problem. If someone in the family approaches you, tell
> them you’ll be glad to do it, but only with the priest’s approval—and then
> make sure he has actually given it.
>
> I have occasionally run into this with former parishioners—as have most
> clergy—when they want me to come back and do a funeral.  I always tell them
> I’d be happy to assist, but it’s up to the current rector/vicar.  That
> precludes someone doing an end run.
>
> But if you leave this up to the family and the priest to work out, you’ll
> have a clear conscience, and the family can’t fault you. (The other
> organist may be a different issue...)
>
> Good luck!
> Grace
>
> > On Apr 22, 2018, at 2:08 PM, Sheila Ketler <debbiedimond52 at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> >
> > Hello everyone
> > As most of you may know or may not know I sub as an organist at a
> Catholic
> > parish. My future daughter in law's grandmother was very devout Catholic
> > and Delores attended this parish faithfully. Now Delores dislikes the
> > organist in charge over there and she advised her family (but not the
> > priest) that she did not want that other woman playing the organ and she
> > told them she wanted me to do it...
> > The problem is she did not tell the priest this and if the family do not
> > make her wishes known then that other woman will do it...
> > Not sure how to handle this ....This only happens with me in my life why
> is
> > there always such a problem? and I would have offered but thought they
> > would turn me down flat...!!
> >
> > Any advice welcomed...
> >
> > Sheila
>