[Magdalen] A bit of a problem.. any suggestions ??

[Sheila Ketler]

Yes I know I have to keep out of this...!!! I just thought it was funny
that Delores and I both had an active dislike for this person... Too bad we
never got to meet up... we could have a good gossip about her... and I
can't believe the antics she is pulling and that other church (which is
paying her very very well indeed) is allowing her to cancel choir practices
for them to play somewhere else. Something is wrong in this situation.. and
they hired her not me... Go figure!!!

Sheila

On Sun, Apr 22, 2018 at 3:34 PM, Marion Thompson <marionwhitevale at gmail.com>
wrote:

> My advice is to stay well out of it!   Way way out of it!!!!  To get
> involved sounds like a recipe for disaster.
>
> Marion, a pilgrim
>
> Sent from Mail for Windows 10
>
> From: Sheila Ketler
> Sent: April 22, 2018 4:19 PM
> To: magdalen at herberthouse.org
> Subject: Re: [Magdalen] A bit of a problem.. any suggestions ??
>
> Well the other organist was approached (no one was aware of the fact that
> Delores is related to my son or is soon to be related to him. )and she
> cancelled her other commitment (she works at another parish a job she
> snaffled right out from under my nose...) and so she is committed... The
> family didn't seem to realize they should speak with the priest about it
> but delores was speaking with my son and she said she didn't want the
> b....... with the broken leg playing her funeral so she was pretty adamant
> about it...!!
> She didn't like her one little bit... well I agree neither do I...
>
> Sheila
>
> On Sun, Apr 22, 2018 at 11:57 AM, Grace Cangialosi <gracecan at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> > Well, others may disagree with me, but my advice is not to insert
> yourself
> > into this situation at this point, but let the family work it out with
> the
> > priest. Do not offer; that can only backfire.
> >
> > It’s not clear from your post whether the funeral is imminent, but at
> this
> > point, it isn’t your problem. If someone in the family approaches you,
> tell
> > them you’ll be glad to do it, but only with the priest’s approval—and
> then
> > make sure he has actually given it.
> >
> > I have occasionally run into this with former parishioners—as have most
> > clergy—when they want me to come back and do a funeral.  I always tell
> them
> > I’d be happy to assist, but it’s up to the current rector/vicar.  That
> > precludes someone doing an end run.
> >
> > But if you leave this up to the family and the priest to work out, you’ll
> > have a clear conscience, and the family can’t fault you. (The other
> > organist may be a different issue...)
> >
> > Good luck!
> > Grace
> >
> > > On Apr 22, 2018, at 2:08 PM, Sheila Ketler <debbiedimond52 at gmail.com>
> > wrote:
> > >
> > > Hello everyone
> > > As most of you may know or may not know I sub as an organist at a
> > Catholic
> > > parish. My future daughter in law's grandmother was very devout
> Catholic
> > > and Delores attended this parish faithfully. Now Delores dislikes the
> > > organist in charge over there and she advised her family (but not the
> > > priest) that she did not want that other woman playing the organ and
> she
> > > told them she wanted me to do it...
> > > The problem is she did not tell the priest this and if the family do
> not
> > > make her wishes known then that other woman will do it...
> > > Not sure how to handle this ....This only happens with me in my life
> why
> > is
> > > there always such a problem? and I would have offered but thought they
> > > would turn me down flat...!!
> > >
> > > Any advice welcomed...
> > >
> > > Sheila
> >
>
>