[Magdalen] A bit of a problem.. any suggestions ??

[Sheila Ketler]

Okay thanks everyone for the comments. I did email the priest and I know
that his hands are tied. This person has been working there for 15 years
now and is a bit of an institution. It is odd how people overstay their
welcome in some situations and sorry to say in her case this is very much
true. She has a very good job working for an Anglican parish is only
available to do one weekend mass at the Catholic Parish but grabs every
funeral going.. She will cancel her other commitments to do a funeral
because it is big big money.. 150 dollars for an hours work? Not exactly
pocket change.
We will attend visitation at funeral home and I will stay away from funeral
and I am not going to contact this person regarding this. We have an
unfortunate history with each other one reason why I should never ever have
started working there but it seemed like a good idea at the time...
I am just going to leave things be.... Do I need to spend hours practicing
an Ave Maria?? that I have never ever played??

Sheila

On Sun, Apr 22, 2018 at 11:54 PM, James Oppenheimer-Crawford <
oppenheimerjw at gmail.com> wrote:

> Discuss with her how much she wants this, and that a very brief comment
> (even a note, perhaps) to the priest would suffice. It would be quite
> appropriate for her to say that she wishes her dear friend so-and-so to do
> her funeral. No need to talk about disliking the other person.
>
> If she does not do that, then you certainly don't need to be in any way
> upset. She made her choice, for whatever reason, and that's that. It's not
> your job to try to "handle" this situation.
>
> I agree with Grace entirely.
>
>
>
> James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
> *“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
> except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy
>
> On Sun, Apr 22, 2018 at 2:08 PM, Sheila Ketler <debbiedimond52 at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> > Hello everyone
> > As most of you may know or may not know I sub as an organist at a
> Catholic
> > parish. My future daughter in law's grandmother was very devout Catholic
> > and Delores attended this parish faithfully. Now Delores dislikes the
> > organist in charge over there and she advised her family (but not the
> > priest) that she did not want that other woman playing the organ and she
> > told them she wanted me to do it...
> > The problem is she did not tell the priest this and if the family do not
> > make her wishes known then that other woman will do it...
> > Not sure how to handle this ....This only happens with me in my life why
> is
> > there always such a problem? and I would have offered but thought they
> > would turn me down flat...!!
> >
> > Any advice welcomed...
> >
> > Sheila
> >
>