[Magdalen] pray for me today

[Scott Knitter]

That's great news, Judy!

I know how hard it can be to lead a group study when there are a few (or
even just one) very vocal attendees. Delicate balance between their right
to participate and the same right of others who are less assertive or need
a moment to think before talking.

For some time we had a parishioner who would show up to every class and
discussion to take it over and dominate it, often using such forums to work
out his longtime feeling of rejection from a monastery he was a member of
long ago. So he would attach other encounters to that to prove that
everyone gives him a raw deal. Such pain! But not on topic always, and he
was very long-winded. People stopped going to any classes because he'd
likely derail them. He did get called out for it by an angry fellow
participant in a Bible study, so he heard some frank feedback about it.

Then there are others who haven't got a personal issue like that but who
can't seem to contribute to a discussion without embarking on the telling
of a long story with many asides and tangents. "Reminds me of a story..."
Uh-oh...here we go again...

On Wed, May 22, 2019 at 10:22 AM Judy Fleener <fleenerj at gmail.com> wrote:

> Thank you all.  It was a good evening.  Like many meetings a few people
> were the most vocal. One woman made me nervous because of what she said
> about issues in her past. This group is lead by 2 of us, myself and a man
> who tends to be professorial and verbose.  We each prepared three
> questions.  That really worked well.  I was delighted with the turn out.
> We plan to divide the book into 3 or 4 sections in order to give it time to
> sink in as we go.  Thank you so much for your encouragement and your
> prayers.
> Judy
>
> On Tue, May 21, 2019 at 11:30 PM Lynn Ronkainen <houstonklr at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> > Looking forward to hearing how the discussion went. With you leading the
> > event was already going to be in good hands
> >
> > Lynn
> >
> > On May 21, 2019, at 11:01 AM, Judy Fleener <fleenerj at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > I am leading a book discussion on Nadia Bolz-Weber's book, Shameless: A
> > Sexual Revolution.  I chose the book because I spoke about reading it
> with
> > 2 friends. One said, "We can't read that at St. Paul's."  Another said,
> "We
> > have to read that at St. Paul's."
> >
> > Another person, "Why are we reading that, it makes me feel very
> > uncomfortable."  Here we go.
> >
> >
> >
> > --
> > Judy Fleener, ObJN,SSH
> > Western Michigan
> >
>
>
> --
> Judy Fleener, ObJN,SSH
> Western Michigan
>


-- 
Scott R. Knitter
Edgewater, Chicago, Illinois USA