[Magdalen] Dilemma

[Clarissa Canning]

Thanks for the answers . Mental Health here rejected me , did not meet
their criteria. So I found some other services. I did take a weeks break at
a friends . It helped in some ways.  I am determined to have a happy
rChristmas , pass on the gifts , I  had meaningful l’l gift from my friend
, I had made a ornament at home for her .

On Tue, Dec 7, 2021 at 11:07 AM Jay Weigel <jay.weigel at gmail.com> wrote:

> I know there is also online help in Canada because a friend some years ago
> had an online therapist. She found it easier than talking face to face and
> said it was not that expensive. Here in the US we have betterhelp.com and
> talkspace.com. I used betterhelp.com briefly last year and liked my
> therapist very much. They do a good job of matching you up. I don't know if
> they work in Canada or not but it's worth a try.
>
> On Mon, Dec 6, 2021 at 7:57 AM ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> > Keep at it.
> > A physician can negotiate a referral.
> > It's always best to get ahead of any health challenge so it doesn't
> become
> > acute.
> > And you don't have to live with this level of distress.
> > -Margaret
> >
> >
> > On Sun, Dec 5, 2021 at 10:09 PM Clarissa Canning <canplum at gmail.com>
> > wrote:
> >
> > > thanks , I did contact the local Mental health they turned me down. I
> > found
> > > another place for an appt . I really needed this break out of my town.
> > > While waiting for apt.  Don ‘ t know what kind of decision I will make
> > yet.
> > >   Being under a roof is better in the winter here in the Canadian
> Praries
> > > even if it’s mine.
> > >
> > > On Tue, Nov 30, 2021 at 7:15 AM ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> > >
> > > > Clarissa, I don't know where you are (I mean geographically, not
> > > > emotionally)
> > > > but even the best of your old friends might not be able to give you
> the
> > > > listening ear and the advice you need.
> > > >
> > > > There are professionals who are really good at this,
> > > > people who went into their professions wanting to help,
> > > > and who have the training to do the work as it should be done.
> > > >
> > > > I hope you can find someone to work with you as you go through your
> > > current
> > > > dilemma.
> > > > You deserve it. So do the people you love and who love you.
> > > > -Margaret
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 5:59 PM Clarissa Canning <canplum at gmail.com>
> > > > wrote:
> > > >
> > > > >       It is alright to not take my advise , good you got some
> > opinions
> > > > and
> > > > > options.  I ‘d like to share my delimma , living with a big baby
> who
> > > does
> > > > > not consult me about buying things.   I am having a hell of a time,
> > but
> > > > got
> > > > > some people to talk to and my anxiety is high .I went totally
> silent
> > > live
> > > > > upstairs most of the time. I not so cruel that I stoped helping
> cook
> > > and
> > > > > changing ostomy in home er.  why do some guy know how to pick an
> item
> > > > that
> > > > > really stabs one in the heart ❤️. Clueless . I will never get an
> > > apology
> > > > as
> > > > > I have a big mouth too many times. I like to say No too many times
> .
> > > > Thank
> > > > > God I found an old friend    an am taking a break for a week .
> > Almost
> > > 45
> > > > > years and my choices are not great . Please duck tape me to he wall
> > and
> > > > put
> > > > > tape on the my mouth .  Send $$$ so i can go see my granddaughter
> in
> > > > Japan
> > > > > . ( just kidding ) It’s true will never go there .   Pray if you
> > wish .
> > > > it
> > > > > will be a long winter.
> > > > >
> > > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 1:30 PM Marion Thompson <
> > > > marionwhitevale at gmail.com
> > > > > >
> > > > > wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > > > Be strong and firm, Grace..  You have every right to say 'No'.
> You
> > > are
> > > > > not
> > > > > > being selfish.  You are being sensible and responsible where he
> is
> > > not.
> > > > > > These are not usual times and you should not be asked to
> jeopardize
> > > > your
> > > > > > health,   and, indeed,  your own Church work and the people you
> mix
> > > > with
> > > > > as
> > > > > > we approach Christmas!
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Marion, a pilgrim.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > On Mon, 29 Nov 2021 at 11:23, Grace Cangialosi <
> gracecan at gmail.com
> > >
> > > > > wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > > > I know.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 7:13 AM ME Michaud <
> michaudme at gmail.com>
> > > > > wrote:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Oh, and as a vaccinated person, you can catch Covid, show no
> > > > > symptoms,
> > > > > > > but
> > > > > > > > still infect others.
> > > > > > > > -M
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 7:12 AM ME Michaud <
> > michaudme at gmail.com>
> > > > > > wrote:
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > Besides, tbose pelicans were still chicks (or whatever baby
> > > > > pelicans
> > > > > > > are
> > > > > > > > > called).
> > > > > > > > > -M
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > On Mon, Nov 29, 2021 at 6:53 AM Grace Cangialosi <
> > > > > gracecan at gmail.com
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > wrote:
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >> LOL! I collect pelicans, but no, I don’t plan to emulate
> > their
> > > > > > > > >> self-sacrifice!
> > > > > > > > >>
> > > > > > > > >> > On Nov 29, 2021, at 6:27 AM, ME Michaud <
> > > michaudme at gmail.com>
> > > > > > > wrote:
> > > > > > > > >> >
> > > > > > > > >> > Setting limits with children should end when they
> become
> > > > > adults.
> > > > > > > > >> > Usually.
> > > > > > > > >> > This one sounds like he just threw his rattle on the
> floor
> > > and
> > > > > is
> > > > > > > > >> watching
> > > > > > > > >> > to see if you'll pick it up and return it to him.
> > > > > > > > >> >
> > > > > > > > >> > So a big NO on this. You have responsibilities to guard
> > your
> > > > own
> > > > > > > > health
> > > > > > > > >> and
> > > > > > > > >> > the health of parishoners.
> > > > > > > > >> > Unless you're intent on becoming the pelican who shreds
> > its
> > > > own
> > > > > > body
> > > > > > > > to
> > > > > > > > >> > feed its young.
> > > > > > > > >> > -M
> > > > > > > > >> >
> > > > > > > > >> >
> > > > > > > > >> >> On Sun, Nov 28, 2021 at 9:14 PM Grace Cangialosi <
> > > > > > > gracecan at gmail.com
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >> wrote:
> > > > > > > > >> >>
> > > > > > > > >> >> Thank you for your input. I consulted my daughter about
> > it,
> > > > and
> > > > > > she
> > > > > > > > >> thinks
> > > > > > > > >> >> I’m making too much of it. She said if I’m that
> > concerned,
> > > I
> > > > > > might
> > > > > > > > not
> > > > > > > > >> want
> > > > > > > > >> >> to ervisit her in Florida. But she and the boys are
> fully
> > > > > > > vaccinated,
> > > > > > > > >> and
> > > > > > > > >> >> if I go inside anywhere, I’ll wear a mask. Plus, I’m
> > > driving
> > > > > > down,
> > > > > > > > not
> > > > > > > > >> >> flying.
> > > > > > > > >> >>
> > > > > > > > >> >> I’ll just have to bite the bullet and talk to my son
> > about
> > > it
> > > > > > > > tomorrow.
> > > > > > > > >> >> It’s not as simple as “my house, my rules;” this may
> undo
> > > our
> > > > > > very
> > > > > > > > >> fragile
> > > > > > > > >> >> new detente. His reasons are political and extend to
> all
> > > > > > > vaccinations
> > > > > > > > >> of
> > > > > > > > >> >> any kind or any suggestion that he should wear a mask.
> He
> > > > > > wouldn’t
> > > > > > > > >> visit
> > > > > > > > >> >> his dad in a nursing home because he had to wear a
> mask.
> > > > > > > > >> >> But I am glad for your input—it basically supports my
> > > > position.
> > > > > > > > >> >>
> > > > > > > > >> >>> On Nov 28, 2021, at 4:00 PM, Grace Cangialosi <
> > > > > > gracecan at gmail.com
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >> >> wrote:
> > > > > > > > >> >>>
> > > > > > > > >> >>> I had a phone call from my son this morning asking if
> > he
> > > > > could
> > > > > > > > bring
> > > > > > > > >> >> the three boys here on a Saturday in December. He has a
> > job
> > > > and
> > > > > > > can’t
> > > > > > > > >> bring
> > > > > > > > >> >> them. They are 16, 10, and 8. I don’t really have much
> > for
> > > > them
> > > > > > to
> > > > > > > do
> > > > > > > > >> here,
> > > > > > > > >> >> but I figured maybe we could go out for pizza and maybe
> > go
> > > to
> > > > > the
> > > > > > > > >> community
> > > > > > > > >> >> park if it’s not too cold, or to a movie.
> > > > > > > > >> >>> But then I remembered that they aren’t vaccinated and
> > > won’t
> > > > > be.
> > > > > > > So I
> > > > > > > > >> >> won’t want to take them out for lunch or to a movie.
> But
> > > I’m
> > > > > also
> > > > > > > not
> > > > > > > > >> >> terribly comfortable with the idea of having them here
> in
> > > the
> > > > > > house
> > > > > > > > all
> > > > > > > > >> >> day. I left a message with my son that we need to
> discuss
> > > it,
> > > > > > but I
> > > > > > > > >> haven’t
> > > > > > > > >> >> heard back yet. He told me awhile ago that the whole
> > family
> > > > had
> > > > > > > COVID
> > > > > > > > >> back
> > > > > > > > >> >> at the beginning, so they don’t need the vaccine, but
> > I’ve
> > > > > heard
> > > > > > > that
> > > > > > > > >> isn’t
> > > > > > > > >> >> necessarily true. I know there’s going to be a
> > > confrontation
> > > > > over
> > > > > > > > >> this, and
> > > > > > > > >> >> I’d like another opinion or two. Am I overreacting? At
> > the
> > > > very
> > > > > > > > least,
> > > > > > > > >> I
> > > > > > > > >> >> will insist that they wear masks—he doesn’t believe in
> > > those,
> > > > > > > either.
> > > > > > > > >> >>
> > > > > > > > >>
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > --
> > > > > > > Grace Cangialosi
> > > > > > > Ruckersville, VA
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > * "Service is what prayer looks like when it gets up off its
> > knees
> > > > and
> > > > > > > walks around in the world"*
> > > > > > > *                                              Michael J.
> Graham,
> > > SJ*
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