[Magdalen] Update on Scott the Younger

[Lynn Ronkainen]

Amen to what Susan said.
Lynn

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From: "Susan Hagen" <susanvhagen at gmail.com>
Sent: Monday, September 08, 2014 8:44 PM
To: "magdalen" <magdalen at herberthouse.org>
Subject: Re: [Magdalen] Update on Scott the Younger

> Dear Scott,
> It is way past wonderful that you have Scott the Younger linked up
> with help.  Still, you're in this for the long haul.
> He's not going to feel better right away.
> His stability is probably going to require some lifestyle and self-care 
> changes.
>
> YOU ARE IMPORTANT TOO!!!  Your needs are important.  Your preferences
> for quiet and solitude are legitimate.  You need to look after your
> own needs for your own sake and so that you can support your partner.
> I know you've said that you have a therapist of your own - work on how
> to speak up for what you need.  If you need to do reality checks you
> know that you can do it here.  Many people have posted about their own
> struggles with this.  We'll be here for you.  I've struggled with how
> to balance what I need with what other people can reasonably expect
> from me.  Taking stand for my own needs was hard, scary but ultimately
> freeing.  It can feel awful to say no but sometimes that's what you
> have to say.
>
> I can't, we can't tell you what to do but we care about you very much.
>
> Susan
>
>
> -- 
> Before enlightenment pay bills, do laundry.  After enlightenment pay
> bills, do laundry.