[Magdalen] Heather Cook

[Ginga Wilder]

Yes, our diocese will set a more thoughtful alcohol policy at the
convention next month.  I don't think it will be very strong.  Our parish
will set a policy following the diocesan convention.  I don't think that
will be strong either.  We have had some conversation already and a bit of
controversy.

The alcoholic system, be it a family, a church, or any sort of
'family-type' system is set to keep secrets.  It's in the DNA and also in
the 'don't talk, don't feel, and don't trust' rules embedded in the
alcoholic, etc.system.  Breaking these crazy making rules is very
difficult, especially when it means telling the truth, naming the
dysfunction, and confronting the one with the most obvious problem.  But,
the truth is that the entire system is sick with denial and doing the same
damn thing over and over and blaming everyone else, rather than owning
responsibility for how we contribute to the sickness.

Um...stepping off the soap box.
Ginga

On Wed, Oct 28, 2015 at 6:45 PM, ME Michaud <michaudme at gmail.com> wrote:

> I agree, but also know it's hard for people to push their information up
> the line. We've been taught to stay quiet about alcohol abuse. Before I
> worked at the hospital I would have worried in silence, too. But that's not
> the right way to move forward.
>
> Our diocese is preparing discussions and classes (much like the classes on
> abuse they required after the crisis in the archdiocese). Can't come soon
> enough IMO.
> -M
>
>
> On Wednesday, October 28, 2015, Ginga Wilder <gingawilder at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> >
> > THIS is a real crime and damn shame.  It is also part of the denial in a
> > sick system acriss the church.
> >
> >
>