[Magdalen] Wedding Advice

[James Oppenheimer-Crawford]

It has been my experience that when I've been at a service and find some
folks going to a reception and then discover it is only for a certain
bunch, it takes some of the joy out of the occasion.

Better to bite the bullet and have the reception elsewhere -- or just have
some cookies and cake for whomever shows up.

James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
*“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy

On Sat, Sep 5, 2015 at 11:47 AM, Jim Guthrie <jguthrie at pipeline.com> wrote:

> As I reported a few weeks ago, we had a same-sex wedding at St Luke's
> using the BCP Marriage Rite with pronouns changed.
>
> Yesterday, we had a Commitment Ceremony -- the couple are members of St
> Stephen's (I realize David like to call it the "Prop Cathedral" but most
> folk around here make gagging faces if you use that appellation)  <g>; We
> had their organist, members of their choir and lots of other people up from
> Wilkes Barre. The church was packed.
>
> The the marriage part was strictly the  approved "Commitment Ceremony -
> ."Blessing of a Lifelong Covenant" rather than the Marriage Rite, (which
> I've noticed is determinately Inclusive l;language as opposed to out old
> paternalistic Rite II).
>
> Otoh, the Eucharist was mostly 1928, complete with Healey Willan AND  the
> prayer of Humble Excess.
>
> IIWKOTF, I'd go to SLM or somesuch for the Eucharist when using the
> "Blessing" texts; the Marriage Rite is fine as either Rite I or Rite II, I
> think, though the Supplementary Liturgical Material approach could be used
> there too.
>
> There was an Anglican Chant Psalm sung by the choir, lots of Elgar and
> other Victoriana, and one of my favorite anthems "Greater Love" by John
> Ireland.
>
> It should be noted that the reception was held in our parish hall -- the
> celebrant made an announcement that only invitees were welcome, which might
> influence Rick's decision. Lots of people left out the front door, as we
> did . . .
>
> Cheers,
> Jim
>