[Magdalen] funeral planning

[Marilyn Cepeda]

Our advanced planning form includes a statement saying blank has my
permission to modify
My funeral plans as is appropriate given the circumstances of my death.
That is a rough paraphrase, but you get the idea. The one we will do
Saturday gives family the right to modify. Others have said no
modifications. Others specify one person to make final call.

On Wednesday, May 25, 2016, James Oppenheimer-Crawford <
oppenheimerjw at gmail.com> wrote:

> You need to place your funeral into the hands -- legally -- of a person you
> trust. It could be as simple as designating the place and celebrant, or you
> can get some lawyer to certify the whole thing. You can do this. But if you
> don't make it clear before you die, well, yeah, they can do whatever they
> want to do.
>
> You can always tell them that you are planning your funeral, and if they
> wish to do something else, they can have a memorial service at their own
> time on their own dime.  That's abundantly fair.
>
> While I can imagine the family wanting whatever they might want (and, to be
> sure, the funeral is indeed for the living), I just cannot imagine how
> despicable a group could be to go against the express wishes of a person
> still living as to how his or her funeral ought to be done.
>
> It's your last wish, fer cryin' out loud.  What a bunch of scumbag
> assholes.
>
> And I apologize for being over the top angry about this, but wow, how
> narcissistic can these twits get?
>
> On the other hand, I think what they are doing is better than the folks who
> just say nothing, then go ahead and do whatever they want.  I recall
> friends of mine who were professional singers were good friends of Lowell
> Thomas. He had children by his first wife and after her death married his
> secretary. It was a good marriage. When he died, the children swooped in
> and took control of everything and threw the widow out of the house. They
> had just been waiting life vultures. They had it all planned.  My friends
> were planning to sing at his funeral, and the widow called them up in tears
> saying the entire affair was out of her hands.
>
> So, yes, it could be worse.
>
>
>
> James W. Oppenheimer-Crawford
> *“A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved,
> except in memory. LLAP**”  -- *Leonard Nimoy
>
> On Wed, May 25, 2016 at 3:01 PM, Jon Egger <revegger at gmail.com
> <javascript:;>> wrote:
>
> > Listmates,
> >
> > I am seriously working on my funeral plan.  All I want is a simple Rite
> II
> > burial office.  No Eucharist.
> >
> > Some in my family are blocking my wishes by saying that 'funerals are for
> > the living, not the dead.'
> >
> > This isn't easy. Thanks for letting me vent.
> >
> > --
> > If no one has told you that they love you today,
> > let me be the first.
> > brud
> >
>


-- 
Marilyn (Owens, Palmero) Cepeda