[Magdalen] funeral planning

[Arthur Laurent]

I have my funeral plans as part of my will. And a separate copy in my safe deposit box... and did I mention a copy with the Rector? Everybody knows what I want.  I've chosen a 30-ish executor who has been known to nicely stand up to geezers "insisting" on this or that.

I've cribbed liberally from my mother's funeral plans (That was a beautiful Spring service!), which are nearly the same as my grandmother's funeral plan. These women knew how to craft a liturgical service.

Arthur

-----Original Message-----
From: Magdalen [mailto:magdalen-bounces+alaurent=npr.org at herberthouse.org] On Behalf Of Jay Weigel
Sent: Wednesday, May 25, 2016 5:40 PM
To: magdalen at herberthouse.org
Subject: Re: [Magdalen] funeral planning

What Ginga said.

I had to plan Adam's funeral because of course he didn't. I would have had a Eucharist because he was an acolyte for so long, but being mindful of how many people would be in attendance who weren't familiar with the Episcopal service, and also because the persons doing the service were deacons (one of whom had known him since he was a little guy in diapers), I elected to go for the Rite II Burial service with lots of music. I was told by many who attended what a beautiful service it was. Deacon Jim emphasized at the beginning that our service is an Easter service and one of hope and resurrection. I just about lost it right there, but it hit the right note.

I love you, Brud. And I hope you do get someone to play that Chi Coltrane song good and loud!

On Wed, May 25, 2016 at 5:04 PM, Ginga Wilder <gingawilder at gmail.com> wrote:

> Jon, I believe each of us gets to plan our own funeral, if we want to 
> do that.  In so doing, we have an opportunity to think about our faith and
> craft a worship service that expresses our heart.   I believe the planning
> process is a very good thing.  Can you speak with the clergy person 
> who will do your service and give your order of service to that person for safe
> keeping?   Your family may plan something they want, but you will have
> taken the opportuntiy to care for yourself in this way.
>
> I love you, Brud.
> Ginga
>
> On Wed, May 25, 2016 at 4:00 PM, Esther Williamson <momohl1 at cox.net>
> wrote:
>
> > My Priest encourages us to file a copy of our funeral wishes with her.
> She
> > uses that copy when she meets with the family. Tell those who 
> > disagree
> with
> > your plans that they can do what they want later as a memorial 
> > service
> but
> > that you intend to have your Rite II with no Eucharist and then give 
> > your plans to someone you trust to see it carried out.
> >
> > Esther
> >
> >
> >
> > On 5/25/2016 3:01 PM, Jon Egger wrote:
> >
> >> Listmates,
> >>
> >> I am seriously working on my funeral plan.  All I want is a simple 
> >> Rite
> II
> >> burial office.  No Eucharist.
> >>
> >> Some in my family are blocking my wishes by saying that 'funerals 
> >> are
> for
> >> the living, not the dead.'
> >>
> >> This isn't easy. Thanks for letting me vent.
> >>
> >>
> >
>