[Magdalen] As long as we're confessing stuff...

[Judy Fleener]

Know that you have my prayers and love.

On Sat, Apr 22, 2017 at 7:43 PM, Ann Markle <ann.markle at aya.yale.edu> wrote:

> Molly, what Ginga & Louise say.  And do pay attention to adequate sleep,
> nutrition, and rest.  And ask for help!  Yes, with the laundry and meals.
> Does your church have a "meals and chores" group?  Do you qualify for some
> kind of "Senior Assistance" (sorry) with meals and chores?  Do get all the
> help you can, as part of the treating yourself with exquisite care.
> Sometimes that's the hard lesson of getting old or just being sick --
> learning to ask for adequate help.  That kind of humility can be so hard
> for us strong, independent women.
>
> I remember when I had a MUCH more minor thing -- when I took the drugs that
> forced my bones to release stem cells for my brother all those many years
> ago.  I'm convinced that that physical process (as well as the grief when
> he died, of course) contributed to the first and only (so far) clinical
> depression I've ever experienced.  When I felt it, I knew that it was
> qualititatively different from all that dysthymia I had experienced in my
> wild, crazy youth.  Have you seen a shrink, preferably one with experience
> with cancer patients (s/he'd know how much the chemo and radiation
> contribute, and perhaps which meds could work best with those treatments)?
> Of course, I wish I could do or say something that would help "fix you."
> It's hard for friends to feel so helpless in the face of your conditions.
>
> I do hope it helps a little to know you're loved and prayed for here in the
> pub.
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> The Rev. Ann Markle
> Buffalo, NY
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> On Sat, Apr 22, 2017 at 6:43 PM, Molly Wolf <lupa at kos.net> wrote:
>
> > I think people believe that I need reassurance that I'm going to survive
> > this bout with cancer, and I believe that too.  But I'm also nudging 68,
> > and I'm aware that I'm on the downslope of life, although the timing and
> > rate of descent are TBD.  As you age, some doors necessarily close, and
> > right now I'm struggling with the knowledge of my own mortality, and also
> > with very real and present worries about getting through the rest of
> > radiation without becoming disabled by fatigue.  As it stands, I have
> > trouble getting up the basement stairs, and the basement is where the
> > washer and dryer are.  That sort of thing. So being told heartily that
> "my
> > cousin had breast cancer when she was in her forties and twenty years
> > later, she's fine" is not especially useful.
> >
> > Molly
> >
> > The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no
> > other way. -- Mark Twain
> >
> > > On Apr 22, 2017, at 5:26 PM, Ginga Wilder <gingawilder at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> > >
> > > Molly, let the guilting comments about bucking up, etc. fall on the
> floor
> > > in little piles.  Step over them on your way to lie down.  Are you
> > getting
> > > enough nourishment?  Do you have assistance getting to radiation
> > treatments
> > > and the grocery or pharmacy?  Ask your local priest bring a home
> > eucharist
> > > to you...as regularly as you need.  Speak to yourself with deepest
> > kindness
> > > and love.  Take exquisite care of you!
> > >
> > > Love you,
> > > Ginga
> > >
> > >> On Sat, Apr 22, 2017 at 5:02 PM, Louise Laughton <llaug2 at gmail.com>
> > wrote:
> > >>
> > >> To Molly: Why shouldn’t you give a worry, passing or otherwise, to
> your
> > >> long-term prospects? Seems a reality-oriented consideration to me, not
> > at
> > >> all a matter of wallowing in a made-up problem from which one could
> > “buck
> > >> up” and look on the bright side, etc. etc. As for the rest, please
> know
> > >> that I think of you — not that it can do much good, but you are in
> mind
> > >> often. (It’s cold and gloomy today in Syracuse, too.)
> >
> >
>



-- 
Judy Fleener, ObJN,SSH
Western Michigan