[Magdalen] And the rent increase is...

[Molly Wolf]

What Jay said.  House construction/ renovation is grounds for divorce, also complete nervous breakdown(s).  My mother had a charming condo in Portland, ME, with a washer/dryer unit in a hall closet.  I had stacked machines in my kitchen in my previous house.

Better to buy a house that you both like, as it is.

Molly

The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way. -- Mark Twain

> On Jul 12, 2017, at 11:19 PM, Jay Weigel <jay.weigel at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
>> On Wed, Jul 12, 2017 at 11:07 PM Molly Wolf <lupa at kos.net> wrote:
>> 
>> I would add that purpose-built dream houses are often hard to sell.  And
>> building a house is incredibly stressful; it would be particularly hard on
>> you, Scott (constant rapid-fire decision-making, plus the need to be tough
>> on contractors) and would drive StY's perfectionism into mania.  Don't do
>> it. Honest.
>> 
>> I've owned and renovated four houses and I'm only a homeowner because I
>> have the equity to be mortgage-free.  And I love this house, although the
>> current renovations (turning the front porch into a screen porch, are
>> taking FOREVVVERRRR (although it's going to be so worth it!)
>> 
>> Find an apartment with its own washer/dryer.  It's possible.
>> 
>> Molly
>> 
>> The man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no
>> other way. -- Mark Twain
> 
> 
> What Molly said. All but two of the apartments I lived in as a travel
> nurse, as well as the one I settled in when I moved to Richmond, had
> washer/dryer combos in them.
> 
> And also what she said about building a house. You and StY would come close
> to killing each other before you were through. I watched my hairdressers go
> through it, and they didn't have near the competing issues, nor was either
> one of them a perfectonist. You do NOT want to do that, trust me. Get your
> issues mediated and decide from there on what you really want.
> 
>> 
>> 
>>> On Jul 12, 2017, at 10:44 PM, Grace Cangialosi <gracecan at gmail.com>
>> wrote:
>>> 
>>> My thought exactly, Jay--even before I saw your response.
>>> 
>>>> On Jul 12, 2017, at 9:43 PM, Jay Weigel <jay.weigel at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>> 
>>>> On Wed, Jul 12, 2017 at 9:28 PM Scott Knitter <scottknitter at gmail.com>
>>>> wrote:
>>>> 
>>>>> ...for the year starting Oct. 1...
>>>>> 
>>>>> ...drum roll, please...
>>>>> 
>>>>> approximately 1.7 percent.
>>>>> 
>>>>> Whew! Needn't worry about that one anymore. I do want to buy a house
>> (but
>>>>> my partner puts up obstacles to doing so), but it's good to know that
>> until
>>>>> then we're not being robbed. There are ever more apartments going up
>> in our
>>>>> neighborhood, and I think supply is getting ahead of demand.
>>>>> 
>>>>> The obstacle my partner keeps putting up is the desire to build a house
>>>>> rather than buy one. I have environmental concerns about building, and
>> my
>>>>> head explodes at the thought of that whole project: not building it
>>>>> ourselves, but making all the decisions: I'll be pushing for a house
>> that
>>>>> meets our needs but is then quite sell-able; he'll be pushing for a
>>>>> quirkily designed monastic priory. So basically we'll never get a house
>>>>> that way.
>>>>> 
>>>>> I fantasize about finding one of the better homes in a much less
>> expensive
>>>>> town, with a room that will make a splendid monastic oratory but can be
>>>>> other things as well.
>>>>> 
>>>>> I still wonder how old I'll be before I have a home that contains an
>>>>> always-available washer and dryer.
>>>>> 
>>>>> --
>>>>> Scott R. Knitter
>>>>> Edgewater, Chicago, Illinois USA
>>>> 
>>>> 
>>>> You guys need a mediator if you are serious about a house. No
>> fantasizing,
>>>> no arguing.  Someone who can put it in realistic terms and help both
>>>> parties see what is needed.
>>>> 
>>>>> 
>>>>> 
>> 
>>