[Magdalen] Planning ahead (was Re: Funeral Service at Saint Martin's, Houston.)

[Roger Stokes]

On 22/04/2018 19:39, cantor03--- via Magdalen wrote:
> The family cemetery plot in NW Wisconsin has two sections that
> are adjacent at one end.  There is the original section with the red
> granite family marker of stone from quarries at nearby St. Cloud,
> MN - my father's favorite.  There, my father, his first wife (who
> died from ALS) and my brother Paul, are interred.  The other
> section is where my mother and a couple of my favorite aunts
> are buried.  There is room for me (and us!) at both locations.
> I obviously didn't know my father's first wife and I was never
> fond of my younger brother.
>   
> It's silly of me to think about this at all, but as the time approaches
> ever closer, I do.

Not silly at all. Making your feelings and preferences known now will 
alleviate discussions and concerns at what I hope is a significantly 
distant date. I recall that I once had a letter published in the Church 
press when I disagreed with a bishop who disapproved of people saying 
what they wanted to happen at their funeral. As a (not very good) pastor 
I observed that this relieves the relatives of having to make difficult 
decisions at a time when they are in emotional turmoil and susceptible 
to any pressure from funeral directors.

Roger